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Are you offended if you receive a gift that is used?

We have all likely re-gifted gifts that we have received that we will never use. As long as you do not give it back to someone who gave it to you, there should be no problem. Sometimes, people buy us things that we just do not like, or they do not know us well. Those are the things that may feel so impersonal. But what if someone gives you something that they purchased at a thrift store, with your likes or hobbies in mind? Or they have something that was something that was theirs that they decide to give to you, no matter how small or large, because it means something special to them, as they pass it along to you? Would this offend you? Or warm your heart?

1. If it is not new, do not bother giving it to me.

2 votes / 11% 2 votes / 11 %

2. If serious thought goes into the gift, I do not care if it were purchased at a secondhand store.

4 votes / 23% 4 votes / 23 %

3. I enjoy it when someone gives me something that was theirs, when it holds special meaning to them.

1 votes / 5% 1 votes / 5 %

4. Both numbers 2 and 3 are true for me.

9 votes / 52% 9 votes / 52 %

5. I prefer something new, but handmade by the giver.

0 votes / 0% 0 votes

6. I do not like to receive gifts because I feel obligated to give something back.

1 votes / 5% 1 votes / 5 %

7. Other, Please explain in comment section.

0 votes / 0% 0 votes
This poll has received 17 vote(s) so far.

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Comments

LeaPea2417 wrote on December 19, 2015, 9:05 PM

I did vote but it does't seem like my vote appeared or went through. I voted for number 2.

CoralLevang wrote on December 19, 2015, 9:13 PM

Does it show that you are not allowed to vote again?? Sometimes, it seems it takes a little while to "catch up."

It appears that a new vote (2) have been registered.

Last Edited: December 19, 2015, 9:22 PM

DWDavisRSL wrote on December 19, 2015, 9:23 PM

A used gift that was something someone had that they want me to have because it means a lot to them would be an honor to receive. The same can be said for secondhand gifts. One of the greatest gifts I ever got was a used book published in the late 1800s that is a collection of Dicken's short stories.

wolfgirl569 wrote on December 19, 2015, 9:32 PM

If the gift was picked from the heart I dont care how or where they got it.

luisga814 wrote on December 19, 2015, 9:33 PM

Even if the gift is a second hand as long as it came from their own belongings not a gift from others but they do not like and give to someone else.

CoralLevang wrote on December 19, 2015, 9:34 PM

I feel the same way.
When I was in Scotland, I went to a second-hand store to buy the souvenirs I wanted to remind me of the trip.

CoralLevang wrote on December 19, 2015, 9:35 PM

Exactly. Not just something they fill with cheap candy because they don't want to be empty-handed.

CoralLevang wrote on December 19, 2015, 9:36 PM

I agree, luisga814 !

cheri wrote on December 19, 2015, 10:39 PM

It goes like its the thought that counts. I am a very appreciative person.

RuthCox wrote on December 19, 2015, 10:56 PM

A gift to me represents the giver and I would enjoy new, old, handmade, hand-me-down, homegrown... I guess you get the picture!

wolfgirl569 wrote on December 19, 2015, 11:26 PM

I hate Christmas for my nieces for that reason. I never know what to get them that dont cost a big amount of money, so they get cash.But teenagers can drive you nuts anyways lol

CoralLevang wrote on December 20, 2015, 12:10 AM

I agree, and I know that you are.

CoralLevang wrote on December 20, 2015, 12:11 AM

Yes, ma'am! I understand completely.

jiangliu1949 wrote on December 20, 2015, 7:04 AM

I would be offended if I know the gift is a second hand one ,I like the untouched one .

JohnRoberts wrote on December 20, 2015, 7:58 AM

I think you would be offended if it was a used toaster but something secondhand that pertains to hobby or interest is just fine. Or if the situation was financial struggling, you might welcome that used toaster. Really depends on the situation and people involved.

Last Edited: December 20, 2015, 7:59 AM

JohnRoberts wrote on December 20, 2015, 8:01 AM

When I saw this poll, I immediately thought of a used book such as your gift. That instance is more thought and search than a fast Stephen King purchase on Amazon.

FreebieJunkie wrote on December 20, 2015, 9:24 AM

I'm a . But then again I've always adored thrift shops, and the feeling of 'hunting' for treasure. I don't mind re-gifting either.

markgraham wrote on December 20, 2015, 12:38 PM

It really does not matter it is the thought that counts.

CoralLevang wrote on December 20, 2015, 12:52 PM

Unless the recipient is a King fan, I agree on this one.

CoralLevang wrote on December 20, 2015, 12:54 PM

Thank you jiangliu1949 for sharing your thoughts. I wish the other who voted as you did would have shared his/her feelings on it, as well.

CoralLevang wrote on December 20, 2015, 12:55 PM

JohnRoberts Did you mean this as a response to jiangliu1949 ? or to me?

CoralLevang wrote on December 20, 2015, 1:02 PM

FreebieJunkie I was a young adult before I ever found thrift shops. Even then, in the early to mid-1970s, it was not considered very chic to do so. God forbid finding something and giving it to someone from a thrift store or garage sale.

And then I found a piece of Waterford crystal. It still had the Waterford sticker on it. I payed $3 for it. It had been sitting for a long time. I removed (carefully) the sticker, and gave it a hot soapy bath with a bit of vinegar. It sparkled. I found out the piece sold new in the department store for over $200 at the time. I posted a newspaper ad. I was paid $125 for that piece.

Those kinds of finds at thrift stores today are rare, but get to a yard sale at the right time, you might find it.

And in the proper packaging, even that $3 Waterford crystal piece is still valuable if someone will pay $200 for it.

CoralLevang wrote on December 20, 2015, 1:03 PM

I agree.

JohnRoberts wrote on December 20, 2015, 1:59 PM

Like I said in another comment, it depends on the person. If they are a Stephen King fan, then the latest King is just right if they don't have it.

JohnRoberts wrote on December 20, 2015, 2:02 PM

Neither. Just a general comment. You have to know the recipient. If it's known they don't care for secondhand, then you get something new. It's all about a thoughtful approach about a person's likes and dislikes, wants and needs.

CoralLevang wrote on December 20, 2015, 2:11 PM

I like being creative with my gifting.
One time, I found a book on Amazon that was about Bob Hope and his tours. My ex's picture was in the book, in the bandroom (Navy), with him sitting at a drum set. He couldn't find a copy. I found one for $3. It is what he received for Christmas.
Best. Present. Ever.

CoralLevang wrote on December 20, 2015, 2:13 PM

YES!! So true!

You know....you and I are agreeing just way too much nowadays. emoticon :winking: What's up with that? (as the kids would say)... *chuckles*

JohnRoberts wrote on December 20, 2015, 8:23 PM

I will have to remedy the situation and return to my familiar argumentative caustic you say to-ma-toe I say to-mah-to self.

CoralLevang wrote on December 20, 2015, 8:29 PM

One of the reasons I love you so. emoticon :winking:

Paulie wrote on December 21, 2015, 2:02 AM

I often received and liked gifts from my parents that had special meaning.

grandma20121 wrote on December 22, 2015, 7:29 PM

for me a gift is a gift and its the thought that counts my parents always taught me that

CoralLevang wrote on December 22, 2015, 11:40 PM

Always good to get those, yes.

CoralLevang wrote on December 22, 2015, 11:41 PM

I agree, except when it's an afterthought and no thought . emoticon :winking: Even though I will appreciate the gesture, I would rather they don't, in that case.