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Have you ever co-slept?

In the Western world we have come to take it for granted that each child should have his own bed, if not his own room. Even newborns are expected to sleep in a bassinet or crib, rather than to sleep close to mother. This is assumed to be healthier for both parents and children, and parenting experts claim it promotes independence in children over time. But in many other times and places a family bed has been – and in many cases continues to be – the norm. My question for today is, have you ever shared a bed with a parent, child, or sibling? / / /

Yes, it is the norm where I come from to have a baby or child share the bed of the parents

3 votes / 13% 3 votes / 13 %

Yes, the family bed is uncommon where we are but we chose it for our children

4 votes / 17% 4 votes / 17 %

I shared a bed with a sibling when I was younger

7 votes / 30% 7 votes / 30 %

I have never shared a bed, and could not imagine doing it

2 votes / 8% 2 votes / 8 %

What the heck is cosleeping?

2 votes / 8% 2 votes / 8 %

Other feel free to explain below

5 votes / 21% 5 votes / 21 %
This poll has received 23 vote(s) so far.

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Comments

maxeen wrote on November 21, 2014, 7:56 PM

Hundreds od times when loads of cousins arrived,by the way do tents and youth hostels count?

bestwriter wrote on November 21, 2014, 8:16 PM

We siblings slept together while our parents had their separate rooms. I do not remember sharing a bed with my parents - may be when I was very small.

Ellis wrote on November 21, 2014, 8:17 PM

If we are only talking about as children...not that I can remember...

celticeagle wrote on November 21, 2014, 8:41 PM

I have had my infant daughter in bed with me when I was too tired to put her back in her crib. I also slept with my cousins when I went to stay.

Donna_Thacker wrote on November 21, 2014, 9:13 PM

My babies slept with me at times and now my grand children have a tendency to crawl into my bed at night. Though everyone has their own bed, sometimes snuggling with a child is very comforting for both parent and child!

Ruby3881 wrote on November 21, 2014, 9:25 PM

Sure do! But I'm also looking for anyone who co-slept for a longer period of time - say a whole summer at the cottage, or with a sibling over a year or more...

Ruby3881 wrote on November 21, 2014, 9:27 PM

Were you a large family, Grace? We never co-slept when I was a child, except for slumber parties and when we travelled. But my mother co-slept with her two sisters for a time when she was young.

Ruby3881 wrote on November 21, 2014, 9:27 PM

Or as an adult, with your own child.

Ruby3881 wrote on November 21, 2014, 9:28 PM

I think both of those situations are quite common, even today!

Ruby3881 wrote on November 21, 2014, 9:29 PM

I have teens who still choose to co-sleep with their younger siblings on occasion. It is, as you say, very comforting.

Platespinner wrote on November 21, 2014, 10:54 PM

I co-slept with an older sister (12 years older) briefly from the time I moved out of the crib in my parents room (when I was three or four) until she got married when I was six.
While all four of my children started out the night in their own beds, three of the four consistently ended up finishing the night in our bed after they woke to nurse during the night. Interestingly I could NOT sleep when our second child was in our bed until he was over four months of age and could never figure out why--and he's the child that started having nocturnal seizures when he was eight. I wonder if there had always been something wrong that I picked up on subconsciously. I always put him back in his bed as a newborn...he's the one that was hardest to convince to STOP sleeping in our bed. He was four when I finally convinced him to stay in his own bed (yes we went through a long stretch where he and our oldest daughter would both end up in bed with us)

bestwriter wrote on November 21, 2014, 11:14 PM

We were 9 and one we had lost even before I was born. We had fun and frolic while under the same roof but that has now disappeared what with different 'status' levels.

MegL wrote on November 22, 2014, 2:36 AM

All my children co slept with us and two grandchildren now do so!

BarbRad wrote on November 22, 2014, 4:17 AM

I've never had a regular co-sleeping arrangement, since i was an only child for ten years. I don't' sleep well if another person is even in the room.

Madcanman wrote on November 22, 2014, 5:52 AM

The only ones I co-sleep with these days are my wife and our cat. I grew up one of eight in a small Cape style home, and had to share a bed with an obnoxious, gassy brother. Funny, what memories one holds onto...

Kasman wrote on November 22, 2014, 9:23 AM

The only times I slept with a parent when I was a child was when I was ill. The same applied to our children.

Ellis wrote on November 22, 2014, 9:34 AM

My daughters mother cleared off when she was only a baby so I did have her cot in the same room as me....but we never shared the same bed...

MarshaMusselman wrote on November 22, 2014, 11:10 AM

Several answer apply for me. I slept with two other sisters in the same bed when young and a fourth sister in the same room.

Along with that when my kids were young they slept with me, or I with them to some degree for I was an older mom, I had my first when I was thirty-six and I was tired out a lot, plus after the six weeks after birthing them I always returned to work. I don't think I'd do that again, for it was difficult weaning them of needing me in their room in order for them to fall asleep. I was still working on that until one of them was nine.

I think it's great for kids of the same sex to share rooms though.

chatombreux wrote on November 22, 2014, 9:50 PM

My daughter slept with us for several months until we got a crib for her. Or she'd sleep in her playpen during the day. But, otherwise, she slept with me and her dad. My son slept with us sometimes, but we also had a crib that was in the same room, so he was more often there. I don't have a problem with a newborn. But, as they get older, I do think they should migrate to their own rooms.

celticeagle wrote on November 23, 2014, 6:40 PM

That's it for me. Common life. Once heard of a couple that had the same dream in the same night. Would that be 'co-dreaming'?

idyll wrote on November 23, 2014, 11:47 PM

As our custom, we used to sleep together parents and children unless the children is going away for living.

tinamarie wrote on November 25, 2014, 7:18 PM

I shared a bed with my sister during my younger years and then when my mother was able we had bunkbeds. I Co-Sleep with my grandchildren! They think it's a treat during a sleep over to be able to kick Pepere (my husband) out of the king size bed and pile in with me and eat popcorn and other snacks in the bed. I so enjoy cuddling up with them and knowing that they feel the love and care pouring from my heart. I dread the day when they get too old to cuddle their Grammie.

slexy143 wrote on December 7, 2014, 1:54 PM

whenever i visit my sister, my room and bed willl be filled with all her 3 kids. so we squeeze ourselves and sleep despite them having theirmown rooms, but its better with aunty, they say.

manni wrote on December 8, 2014, 11:54 PM

yes i have. with my mom when small, with my cousins, shared a room with a colleague on a business trip for a day only though