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One of the major complaints (or whines) you hear from nongay people is, “I don’t mind gay people but do they have to through it in our face all the time?”

Hey folks you have been throwing your +heterosexuality in my face for 78 years! No matter where I looked or turned or listened, whether movies, TV, radio, newspapers or magazines there it was: engagements, marriages, baby showers, baby births, pictures of your children that I was forced to look at and coo, and what was the American Dream? Yes, a husband, a wife, 2.5 kids and a dog and whether we were watching a commercial or a sit-com it was all about that or the loss of a husband or wife and how the survivor brought the kids up unless of cause they got married and combined their families making sure “Eight is Enough”!

We have Jack flaunting around in “Will and Grace” and we are flaunting it in your face! Oh wait there is that gay couple raising a child in “Modern Family”--OMG! TV is just rampant with +ho-mo-sex-u-als!!!

What about all the years I had to have Liz and her husbands, Larry King and his wives in my face. (Sure, gay marriage will pull no marriage apart!) How about the airwaves filled with stories about Ingrid Bergman having a child by a man while she is married to another man--heck that was such news she had to be condemned on the floor of Congress! Oh, that’s old news??? What about Brittany Spears getting married for 17 minutes and should we even both talking about the Kadashins or whatever they are called?

Oh, so they are celebrities and they don’t count. What about the 50% divorce rate that is thrown in our face all the time or a couple getting married AFTER they have had a child or your next door neighbor who made the paper because she tried to drive over the woman her husband was cheating on?

I could write thousands of examples of nongays throwing their life in gay’s faces so don’t tell me about the past, maybe 20 years, versus the 78 years. And sorry but too bad you don’t like gay parades where, OMG!, a man is showing his haunches and a women may be showing her breasts. Can we talk about the Irish Day parade and what goes on?

Look folks you may even call these posts as throwing the +gay life ‘style’ in your face--learn to live with it as I learned to live with your posts talking about your husbands, wives, kids, grandkids and you throwing the nongay life ‘style’ in my face!

A reminder: I don’t mind rebuttals or emotions but please use facts and/or state when you are saying how you feel and my mother always told me not to discuss religion and I don’t so please keep that out of the ‘debate’.

Part 3 next--gay life in the 50s and 60s before ‘gay liberation’ and before AIDS!

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MaeLou wrote on July 29, 2014, 3:50 PM

I think it's good you are standing up for your rights. While, I'm not gay, I'd hope that I wouldn't be throwing my "straight" lifestyle in anyone's face, especially since I am very very close to a few gay people in my life.

inertia4 wrote on July 29, 2014, 4:17 PM

GreatMartin I hear you and I agree. The gay community has been behind the scenes or underground for many years. It is about time the gay community is getting their say and their rights. What most people don't understand is that gay people are born that way, they are not created or decide to become gay. Just like a straight person. People are what they are. Hell, if I were gay, I would blast it all over. Good for you. I applaud this post from you. You are a human being just like me and everyone else in this world. We should all be treated with respect.

LeaPea2417 wrote on July 29, 2014, 4:33 PM

There is one thing heterosexuals and homosexuals have in common and that the divorce rate. With gay marriage becoming more accepted, in the entertainment world, there are so many famous people gay or straight that have been married and divorced 5 and 6 times.

LoudMan wrote on July 29, 2014, 8:27 PM

You've probably been though more than most. The good news is, the world is finally beginning to come around.

tinamarie wrote on July 30, 2014, 11:52 AM

It sounds like you've had a lot to face over your 78 years. You seem to have adapted to the difference in society and the changes over those 78 years too. I'm glad things are changing for all people who have a different lifestyle and I don't mean "gay lifestyle", I mean just plain lifestyle, mine, yours and others.

GreatMartin wrote on August 2, 2014, 3:48 PM

That's alright MaeLou I can deal with it--even now you have a picture of a man and woman as your avatar--that is announcing "I AM NOT GAY!" but don't worry some of my best friends are nongay! LOL
Thanks for the comment.

GreatMartin wrote on August 2, 2014, 3:52 PM

I don't get into that born or choice arguement because there are good and bad things about both---just as an example a few years ago there was a play and then movie "Twilight of the Golds" which argues the born factor and so a young mother to be upon finding her son has the gay gene aborts him.
Born or choice I wouldn't have my life any other way--with all the ups and downs I have had a great life!
Thanks for your positive comment.

GreatMartin wrote on August 2, 2014, 3:57 PM

Right now the heterosexuals hold the record!!! LOL But since same sex marriage ia allowed we all know more nongay families will be breaking up--yeah! LOL

inertia4 wrote on August 2, 2014, 4:02 PM

GreatMartin I never thought about that way. A child is a precious thing, gay or not. I love my children very much and if one of them ever told me they were gay, I would accept it no matter what. You're welcome. I never understood how people can be so cruel with anything.

GreatMartin wrote on August 2, 2014, 4:27 PM

I wish--just because DADT was removed and in some States people can get married we are far from even coming around--gay kids are commiting suicide, along with being bullied, bashed and in some cases killed--teachers are still being fired for being gay, landlords won't rent to gays and the long list is still long and there are parts of the world they are being killed for being gay BUT legally being able to be 'out' in the service (and I have a long post about that I will write one day soon) and marrying someone you love who happens to be the same gender is a step in the right direction though I don't want to get married and I want gays to stop imitating nongays and make their own marital doings---I am never satisfied and won't be when it comes to gay equality BUT some of my best friends are nongay so when we talk no problem.

GreatMartin wrote on August 2, 2014, 4:27 PM

There have been small changes but I want more!!!! LOL

Ruby3881 wrote on August 4, 2014, 10:23 PM

Never had a problem with the "gay lifestyle." Actually, I've had some great times sharing the "lifestyle" of some gay friends with great taste in food, music and theatre, among many other things. I grew up in Montreal and went to a suburban school where I suspect nobody would have dared to be out in the 80s. But by the time we started college, that all changed. I had a ton of friends who were part of the organized LGBT groups in school or in the Gay Village.

I went with them to the gay bars and had the experience of being the "odd one" who got stared at. I got teased (lovingly) for being a "breeder." I held hands of friends who were nervously coming out. I danced with my gays friends - men and women. I ate from the same plate as them and shared a chalice with them. I invited them into my home, and visited theirs. I watched some go through sex reassignment, and had conversations about how two gay men or women could celebrate the Great Rite in a Pagan ceremony. I watched some friends leave our community because they didn't feel they could be themselves. And I grieved with a friend who lost the love of his life to AIDS.

If there is a "gay lifestyle" I saw no evidence of one. But I did find that my LGBT friends knew how to live with style :D

GreatMartin wrote on August 6, 2014, 4:05 PM

I had a great nongay friend and I taught him when he goes to bars the best way to pick up women was to let them know he was gay--they all wanted to 'change' him--he still thanks me all these years later--it was how he met his wife!!! LOL

Gays like nongays have their good and their bad and the former don't all live in style but then not all the latetr do either! People are people--and I enjoy them all. :O)