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Still Learning the Ropes, Feeling Left Behind

I may need some help from people around here. I'm still sort of groping around. I just popped in on a writer I know from YCN/Yahoo, and she has more than five pages of posts here. I had no idea this site had been around long enough for someone to have five pages.

In the meantime, seeing that writer's bank of posts made me think about an odd trait I have. I have this tendency to feel like I'm always behind in some way. Do you ever feel like you are out of the loop? Like other people have information that you've not been privy on? I research markets all the time, then study the rules of places I join. Still, when I join forums (such as Yahoo), I have no idea what most of the people are talking about most of the time. It seems like they have formed a private club, and I was never invited in.

This is sort of the career equivalent of waking up out of a sound sleep convinced you are late for class. Remember that one? Well, I had that one long after I had graduated. And my version of it was much weirder. I would wake up convinced I had forgotten where my classes were because I'd cut them so often.

As all of this has evolved over the years, I've started wondering if this is a form of anxiety. I used to assume everyone does this kind of thing, at least to some degree, but now I'm not so sure.

Do you have these sorts of thoughts? Do you feel like you are running behind on a regular basis?

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LoudMan wrote on July 25, 2014, 11:46 PM

I used to. But that has all been reversed and now, most of those who attached themselves to me seem scared of their former prey. :) Turn on them and watch them back off. Oh, I wish you and I could sit down and talk for days and days. What questions do you have?

LoudMan wrote on July 25, 2014, 11:48 PM

Mind if I re-connect with you on Facebook?

AngelSharum wrote on July 26, 2014, 12:27 AM

Sorry you feel that way. I do from time to time on a new site but I just keep working at it and asking questions until I get things down. I'm sure you will here soon too.

KimRemesch wrote on July 26, 2014, 1:49 AM

AngelSharum I felt that way mainly in the Yahoo forums. I thought I had a handle on this or that, but then a discussion would start, and I'd wonder if I got up and went to the bathroom while that segment was playing because I certainly missed something.

KimRemesch wrote on July 26, 2014, 1:51 AM

Sure, glad to connect. I thought I had you on there. Don't know what happened. My questions pop up fast and very random. I only have questions that run for days and days after I've taken a decongestant and my heart is beating out of my chest. I find myself wondering if I'm talking out loud. ;-P

AngelSharum wrote on July 26, 2014, 11:34 AM

I hardly ever went in there because I was always lost.

midastouch wrote on July 27, 2014, 7:24 AM

I never ever felt left out
I have a mantra which I inherited from my father
"that when a man wakes up is his own morning"
it has helped me over the years
I am never envious or jealousy of anything or anyone
when my time is due, mine will come
I believe it
I practice it

KimRemesch wrote on July 27, 2014, 8:33 PM

That makes me feel better. There were all sorts of code words and discussions of people...even the newbies seemed to know what was going on. I was lost

KimRemesch wrote on July 27, 2014, 9:53 PM

Do we earn money when we respond to comments here?

LoudMan wrote on July 27, 2014, 10:24 PM

Not on our own topics. Sorry. But, when we comment on others' posts, we do. :)

LoudMan wrote on July 27, 2014, 10:25 PM

*OOPS* So, if you're on someone else's post and you engage someone in a lively discussion (not necessarily a debate or argument) it's a good thing. :)

LoudMan wrote on July 27, 2014, 10:33 PM

Oh. Those forum squabbles. I laugh now because I used to actually let them bug me and now I realize they were all chubby. Hahahahahahaaaa...

*Sigh* I miss some of them now. Not many but, some.

LoudMan wrote on July 27, 2014, 10:35 PM

I like that one. It speaks to a person's right to self-determination.