Children are a blessing do not blame them
Children are a blessing. There is a saying in my native language that says, children are born when their fists are folded but they unfold those fists with blessings. It's always the dream of most women if not all, to have a child but it saddens me that most women especially in my country always blame their kids when things do not work out with their children's fathers.
I accidentally met a woman in a hair salon months back, she had a baby girl on her back and she looked malnourished. The baby was crying a lot, she had a cold and the owner of the salon was so harsh she even shouted at the woman and told her to tell the poor baby to shut up!I felt sad, I told her to give me the child, I held the sweet little girl and felt great. She kept quite and started smiling. Little Wendy was only 6 months old and her mum had to go around the City centre to look for casual jobs to earn some coins for food.
When I was about to leave, I asked Wendy's mum for her phone number but she told me she had no phone. I scribbled my number on a piece of paper and gave her, I also gave her a few coins for lunch and left. I felt I needed to know more about her situation but the place wasn't right as her boss was unfriendly. All I could do was go back home and wait for her call or message. A week later she called me, I arranged a meeting with her and she narrated to me how how her husband had abandoned her with her 4 children, and she pointed that Wendy was the cause. She explained that her husband got angry when she got pregnant for Wendy, he wanted her to terminate the pregnancy as he could not afford to feed another mouth! When this did not bear fruit, he packed and left and he has never come back! Wendy's mum has lived with so much anger towards Wendy, she at some point wanted to throw her in a river, she has even thought of poisoning her but something has always held her back!
Well, Wendy is celebrating her first birthday today, and am glad I met her. I took it upon myself to help Wendy's family whenever I can, I encourage her mother to soldier on, my husband, my friend Eva and I send them money every month for their upkeep. Wendy's mum set up a small business and it also helping in offsetting some of the bills. I feel great I met Wendy and her mum, they are my blessing.