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Getting Away From Social Networks

It has been proven that Facebook can have a bad influence on its users, mainly because it motivates feelings of jealousy or sadness. It's not easy to see all of those photos from vacations and fancy dinners our friends post, right?

Lately, that has not been my problem. It is certainly tough to see so many of my friends visiting all these interesting places for sure. But it's even more tough to read so many depressing posts as well.

There's this friend of mine with clear self-esteem problems, whining about being alone and seeing couples all around him. I get it, but stop complaining, shut down your computer and go outside to meet someone new.

Another friend keeps ranting about not having vacations. Dear friend, it has been two years since I had some time off of work and most of my occasional breaks are over the weekend and I never stay far away from home.

I should also mention this acquaintance, with whom I've been twice, that has been constantly complaining about not having a job and living with her parents. I understand times are not easy, but please spend less time posting and more time sending resumés or go write a book. Do something to change instead of complaining!

With all of this, I feel I need to preserve my mental health. This means, staying away from social networks. Except Persona Paper, of course.

What's your status?


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Anja wrote on July 11, 2014, 7:39 PM

I don't mind them. I know people are going to be who they are only more so - the complainer will complain more, the braggart will brag more. I will annoy people more. One of the best things about Facebook is that the majority of my friends on Facebook are people I don't really even know. Virtual people are much less trouble than friends and family.

VASS wrote on July 11, 2014, 8:08 PM

Interesting. I never thought social networks could enhance the quirks. But you are right. I wonder why do people exaggerate. I have many acquaintances on Facebook and a few friends and relatives. It's a way to keep in touch, but it is also a way to get annoyed.

Kasman wrote on July 11, 2014, 8:18 PM

I dumped FB a while ago - too much nonsensical chatter!

suziecat7 wrote on July 11, 2014, 10:22 PM

I agree with Anja. Facebook is always a good place for me and I just ignore what I don't want to get into.

bestwriter wrote on July 11, 2014, 10:23 PM

I fully agree with you. There is no truth in what is being said on Face Book.

bestwriter wrote on July 11, 2014, 10:48 PM

I always used to point a finger at youngsters when they said virtual friends are better than real and now I am following suit (lol)

AliCanary wrote on July 12, 2014, 2:14 AM

I don't mind the positive posts, because I am happy for my friends. But I don't like the constant whining and drama from some people. It's nice to be able to get some moral support from your friends when something really bad happens, but don't always be moaning!

midastouch wrote on July 12, 2014, 3:30 AM

My take:
Until I met in person one of mu facebook friends in person, I could not believe that there is so much hype and faking going on in Facebook and other social media sites
This guy's pics were all over the place, a visit to Honololu, a vacation trip to Miami Beach, a wonderful time out in the Carribeans, shaking hands with the Emir of Dubai and so on but unfortunately these were all hypes
so from thenceforth I made up my mind not to BELIEVE whatever anyone wrote on facebook until proven to be true
I have become a real THOMAS
lol!!!!!

Gina145 wrote on July 12, 2014, 5:30 PM

What really bothers me is the tendency among some of my Facebook friends to write about things that really should be kept private.

HotSauceTexasPete wrote on July 12, 2014, 6:33 PM

I believe my mental health went years ago. Why I even bother looking for it now must make me look bonkers.

allen0187 wrote on July 13, 2014, 12:59 AM

Never had an FB account. Didn't have Friendster or even MySpace back then. I have Instagram but I use it for my online shop.

social media + idle time = depression

LadyDuck wrote on July 13, 2014, 2:57 AM

PersonaPaper is not a social Network is a blog site of writers, this is very different.

SandraLynn wrote on July 13, 2014, 8:56 AM

VASS emoticon :heart:

I was yelling your name with love up there. Did you hear me?

ANYway... my husband takes the Summer off from FB. Every year for the last 3. Hangs a sign up on his page and everything. Takes the app off his phone. Won't look at anything on my page. Won't listen when I read him anything about how so and so's doin' or who got a new...

Yep. Truth is, he can't stand that old Crack, anyway. But I keep reminding him that he should use it for the REASON is was ORIGINALLY intended. He can have his break and come back refreshed; ready to continue NETWORKING :) Even if that occasionally means being tagged in a photo of the fam about where we went for dinner. His fans LOVE that ;) Not that he's famous or anything. Yet ;)

Got off the topic a tad. Thing is, I think we let FB rule our lives a little too darn more than we should. Teeny tiny crazy, that is. Good to step back and reality check every now and then :)

Ravenmount wrote on July 13, 2014, 1:41 PM

I agree with SandraLynn about using facebook as it was originally intended. I have over 500 facebook friends, and unlike whoever they base averages on in antifb studies, I actually do know almost all of them. Yes, they share stuff about their families, jobs and accomplishments, but if I were with any of those friends in real life, I would be happy for them when things go well for them. In real life if someone you knew couldn't be happy for friends when good thangs happen to them, that someone would be seen as having poor self esteem and ego issues. On facebook the same rule should apply- if all those happy posts are making someone jealous and unhappy, the problem is not with facebook or those happy posts, but with the one who is jealous and unhappy. I am a lot more concerned, when I read articles about how bad facebook is, that everyone is so focused on whether facebook is bad that there is little discussion of what it means when you (metaphorical you, not anyone here) cannot be friends with people whose lives are happier than yours in any way. When I have friends who start posting stuff that is too private and annoying to be on my fbfeed, I change their status to 'aquaintance' so I get fewer updates from them, and I block all the games, not the people who play them, so I rarely see anything about games, despite the 500+ friends

For me facebook is a great networking site, and a place where I can share stories I wrote and stuff I am doing, and enjoy similar updates from all of my friends, no matter where they are. I love seeing their vacation pictures and their Peace Corps pictures and what their dog or cat is doing, and being able tosee all the great things happening to my friends to send congratulations for weddings and graduations, and birthday wishes, etc. I also appreciate being able to offer support (and advice when requested) when my any of my friends are going through rough times or need my help.

paradise1897 wrote on July 13, 2014, 3:39 PM

My God I agree. I have been staying away from facebook lately because there is too much negativity there. A website like this one though is a breath of fresh air for me :)

dumme wrote on July 16, 2014, 2:58 PM

That certainly depends upon the way we are content with the blessings of Lord. Some people are so unthankful so they keep ranting!

gidget wrote on July 22, 2014, 10:41 AM

I come from a family of women, and every one takes everyone so seriously. If one comments something, someone else takes offense as if what the person said was all about them!

Fleur wrote on January 8, 2015, 9:02 AM

Until I joined Bubblews I never participated in any social network, and people there didn't seem to brag or complain too much. Or perhaps I just avoided those people; after all I don't know any of them in real life!