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To Migrate Or Not To Migrate

To begin with, I love my country and is home for me and will always be, my sister and her family (her hubby and son), brother (unmarried for now, but has a long time girlfriend) and our mom lives in and they have been there for almost 10 years now (wow, how time flies) and yes, I contemplate going there every now and then, especially when I miss them so that I can with them, or when conflict arises and I want to be there to help solve it, but truth to tell, I think my life is here in the Philippines and given the choice, I don’t want to leave here, even if it means, I will not be with them. I do have my hubby and my kids here with me and I am quite content with where I am right now, I just don't know how to tell them that.

They do want us (hubby and kids) to go and live there, aside from the fact that we can be together there, they also believe that life will be better for us if we go there, but regardless of what they are saying, staying here in the Philippines is my choice as going there is theirs, I’m just not sure how to explain that to them so that they will understand that I don't want to. They say that life will be better for us if we go to Canada but I believe that a beautiful life can be had here in the Philippines as well. It will take a lot of effort, yes, but I know we can have it, that we can do it. I'm really hoping that one day I can tell them that we are okay here and that we won't be needing to go there... One of the best things for me to accomplish is complete financial freedom here in the Philippines and I believe slowly but surely we are getting there, not completely there yet, but getting there nonetheless

Do you think I'm wrong in choosing to stay in my country of birth? Am I really squandering a great opportunity by choosing not to Canada? Should I really just suck it in and go there to satisfy my family's desires even if my whole being says 'no' just because 'life will be better' there?

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bethchay wrote on July 8, 2014, 7:55 AM

It is you and your family can answer that. Ask your husband and your children about it. Just don't give them a definite decision about your plan.

quickchai wrote on July 8, 2014, 8:53 AM

Yea, we are discussing it (me, my hubby and our kids) and so far we are all on the same boat, we will go to Canada only as a last resort...

gidget wrote on July 8, 2014, 10:38 AM

Follow your heart, I'm a gypsy and travel whenever I can, but it is a personal choice. Good luck in your decision.

mercy540 wrote on July 8, 2014, 12:30 PM

the love for your country is holding you back but change is also good, try the new place and maybe it will be better. You can always go back and visit your beautiful mother land.

LadyDuck wrote on July 9, 2014, 1:34 AM

If you can stay in your Country of birth this is the best choice. Even when you feel well in another country, it's never like being in your own country, believe me, I am an expat.

quickchai wrote on July 9, 2014, 1:42 AM

I agree... to stay here will always be my first choice I think, unless something really pushes me towards Canada, I really think we are going to stay here...

quickchai wrote on July 9, 2014, 1:44 AM

Hi mercy540 nah.. I have said that I do love my country, but I think I'm staying because, this is shall i say my comfort zone, my friends are here, and we have already made a comfortable life here, we don't lack for much in terms of necessity although we can do with a bit more luxury but generally we got all we need here

quickchai wrote on July 9, 2014, 1:45 AM

Hahaha.. yea.. my heart is saying 'stay' gidget , yea, you are right, it is indeed a choice, I would love to be able to travel whenever I want... I'm saving up to do just that =)

AbbyBiha wrote on July 9, 2014, 10:53 PM

The decision has to come from everybody, i.e. your husband and your kids. If everyone agrees that the home country is their choice too and that you know you will be happy, then follow your heart. If they think they want to migrate and a whole new opportunity awaits in a new country, then you have to think about it too.

quickchai wrote on July 10, 2014, 7:46 AM

yep,so far the consensus is stay. the kids don't want to go coz they don't want to leave their friends behind... and me and my hubby also would rather stay here and make a life for ourselves here than go there, grasping for what we are not sure of

paigea wrote on October 22, 2014, 12:30 AM

Well, I vote for Canada because that is my home. :D I am not serious. If you have a good like in a beautiful country then that is a good reason to stay. It is hard to have family spread out so much!