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*I Understand Why He Is Stressed*

So, my husband told me one of the reasons he comes home in a bad mood after work sometimes. He owns his company, deals with sometimes rude customers all day long, has to deal with people that don't show up to work every day, comes home to relax and instead gets a house full of kids in his ear. I get that-completely.

If I worked all day long in the heat and was exhausted by the end of the day-the last thing I would want is to come home to a house full of children, especially kids that are not my own.

I understand where he is coming from, which is more reason for me to stop on August 1st. I don't want to keep having arguments with my husband because we are both so stressed out all day long.

Home should be a place of happiness and relaxation, which he is not getting. So, my decision is final. I will feel bad and everything but a happy marriage and home is more important to me than babysitting...

Image source:MINE of my husband and son


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momathome wrote on June 13, 2014, 5:02 PM

I can completely understand. I think I'd do the same thing, too.

LovingMyBabies wrote on June 13, 2014, 5:04 PM

Yeah I have to make my home happy first before anything else.

rusty2rusty wrote on June 13, 2014, 6:16 PM

I understand completely giving up babysitting. Or is it possible for you to restrict your babysitting hours to his working hours? or at least leaving shortly after he arrives home? I think you are being wise about the situation.

JanetHunt wrote on June 13, 2014, 7:59 PM

LovingMyBabies You have to do what is best for you and your family and don't feel bad about that!

MakingCents wrote on June 13, 2014, 10:08 PM

It does make sense. So long as the financial hit of giving it up doesn't cause new stress on the relationship!

LoudMan wrote on June 13, 2014, 11:20 PM

You're stopping here?

LadyDuck wrote on June 14, 2014, 2:13 AM

#LovingMyBabies This is a wise choice. I can well understand that someone coming home tired and stressed need to relax and children are far from be relaxing. I know that my husband would have not accepted to find a house plenty of kids.

LovingMyBabies wrote on June 14, 2014, 7:48 AM

I am still going to do Date Night Sitting-just no more Full Time. I won't be doing anymore Full Time because I will be Home Schooling my kids and need to focus on that.

LovingMyBabies wrote on June 14, 2014, 7:49 AM

I am trying not to feel bad but that is just part of me. =( I always feel bad whenever I upset anyone.

LovingMyBabies wrote on June 14, 2014, 7:50 AM

Well I will still do my Date Night sitting and work online, I just can't do the Full Time anymore.

LovingMyBabies wrote on June 14, 2014, 7:50 AM

No not here-babysitting. Lol.

LovingMyBabies wrote on June 14, 2014, 7:51 AM

Yeah it is very frustrating to him I am sure. Plus I cannot get the house truly clean because I have kids to take care of. Now I will have the time to focus on our children, home schooling them and cleaning the house.

rhoyea19 wrote on June 14, 2014, 10:33 PM

I had a family childcare home for 12 years and it does take a toll on your family life. I closed up in 2002 and I have never looked back! A happy home with a happy hubby and children (of your own) is definitely most important!

AinsleyJo1952 wrote on June 19, 2014, 2:10 PM

This sounds like something you need at this time, so don't let anybody talk you out of it!!!

inertia4 wrote on June 23, 2014, 2:37 PM

I know that feeling very well. I remember those days like they were yesterday. Although I wouldn't mind a house full of kids so much as opposed to this couple my ex used to invite almost every night. That I always tried to avoid. But I would have tried to relax somehow with kids. But I totally get how he feels.