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Social Temperature Prejudice

People are strange. Society is divided into castes by money. Poor, middle class, upper class, nouveau riche, old money. However, an additional quality pervades the youthful element of Society. Young people want to be "cool". The more cool you are, the better accepted you will be. Perhaps someone else can describe it in better words. People want to be the same, they don't want to be viewed as different, weird. Yet people want not to "different". If you don't swing with the crowd, you are not cool, yet if you do everything the crowd does, again, you are not cool.

In school, growing up, I didn't care what the other kids thought. In being that way, most of the kids wanted nothing to do with me. This was so, even though I wanted to be friends. Prejudice based on coolness is the strangest prejudice of all.

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MegL wrote on May 12, 2020, 6:45 PM

Yes, cool and not cool. In the girls' school I went to, the popular ones were the ones who smoked and went out with boys earlier than the rest of us. Yet the stories they used to tell sounded rather sad, especially looking back on them from a distance of over 50 years. We were teens in the swinging sixties but the Welsh valleys didn't swing very much, our parents saw to that!

VinceSummers wrote on May 12, 2020, 8:57 PM

Wise and loving parents. Yes, the things you mentioned were considered part of cool. Another part for boys was to be on sports teams. And for girls, cheerleaders. Some of the cool, yet still nice kids I knew, for no particular reason have died. One died this morning of the coronavirus. He lived in New Jersey, my old home state.

MegL wrote on May 13, 2020, 4:48 AM

Sorry to hear that. Several of the girls in my year at school have died, though I hadn't heard of any from coronavirus.

lookatdesktop wrote on May 15, 2020, 9:37 AM

Yes. I was apparently not cool until I joined the Jr. High School Band. Then I was only cool to those who appreciated my level of skill at playing the trumpet. I still was not very social with the other band students. I was perceived as stuck on myself but I was actually just an introvert but when I performed in concerts and on the football field, I felt like I was part of something bigger than myself and that I belonged to the band. It made me feel good inside. But I always lacked self confidence and for that reason I stayed mainly to myself and just a few friends who were also introverted and basically there to get an education. Not cool students, but students with the ambition to learn and to become something better for it.

VinceSummers wrote on May 23, 2020, 5:54 AM

Another person I know has Covid-19, but surprisingly, a light case. Despite her having respiratory issues.

MegL wrote on May 23, 2020, 7:00 AM

Wish I had had the motivation to learn when I was at school. It bored me stiff. I was probably an introvert too and loved reading. I hated studying what was set, yet I could have done it well. It's that that has inspired me to try to find ways of being motivated over the years. I finally finished my (formal) education after I retired but I hope to go on learning until I die!

MegL wrote on May 23, 2020, 7:02 AM

Glad to hear it isn't too bad a case, thankfully. A person of 104 has recovered from Coronavirus here in the UK, the oldest person, so far, to survive.