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Granny The Ogre

Terrified

I wrote about the wailing wean a few weeks ago and how she cried and tried to escape every time she saw me, the only one of my 5 grandchildren not pleased to see me!

No Improvement?

I was surprised she hadn't improved, especially as she now no longer cries when she sees her grandad and has taken fine to her aunt. She is still a bit clingy to her mother when she is with them but she is still terrified of me. The other day, I had to ride in the back of the car beside her car seat and she cried, then hid her face in her arms until we reached her house.

Nuts?

It was only then, I found out why she is still frightened of me. They had been saying it was a learned response, though she had nothing to learn from, apart from one hour when her mother asked me to look after her so she could go to an appointment and she wasn't even too bad then until she saw her mother again. I had looked after her for one hour 6 months or more ago and it seemed strange she had never forgotten it, especially as other people no longer frighten her.

The Bogeyman

My son and his wife said, "we'll have to stop using granny as a threat." WHAT? They had been using me as a threat to get her to behave or go to bed, as in "if you don't go to bed, I'll get granny!". When I was young, it was the "bogeyman" and they were using me as the bogeyman!

A Stick To Beat Their Own Back

They are wanting to go to an event in November and I cannot look after a child that is frightened of me - that would traumatise her. They are going to have to find another way of getting her to do as she is told. And by the way they NEVER had the threat of the Bogeyman made to them when they were children!


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Comments

lookatdesktop wrote on July 26, 2016, 10:18 AM

So you were always the scapegoat. Figures. You need to about this to her parents and let them know that you are not the bogeyman. I don't blame you for feeling that way.

LisaSteinmetz wrote on July 26, 2016, 10:09 PM

So they pretty much turned you into your granddaughter boogeyman... How very cruel!

MegL wrote on July 27, 2016, 6:21 PM

But they will be the losers because they will not be able to use my babysitting services!