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Battlefields of life

It amazes me just how much difference there is in the way that people come together. I find it fascinating how one or two people can change the tenor an organization or any other group. All there has to be is some minor disagreement, and then when one person gets so offended, they go out on a limb to try to destroy another.

This is not new. Any of us that have ever been to junior high school or if you look at some of the history of the world, you will see evidence of this over and over again. The ones that I find really fascinating are the ones who blindly follow another and will go do their bidding for them. They are sent out to be an annoyance, and should the person respond or react to it, it's to make somebody else be the one screaming so that any blame can go back to the head of the one being reactive. They will try to stand on the sanctimony of always being the one that was right or having been picked on unduly. They will claim the victimhood, while the other one who has been set up once again will take the fall.

People haven't changed very much over the centuries. No matter where we are, or where we decide to interact as human beings, there is always someone who will try to make certain places a battlefield, picking a fight that is unnecessary.

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lookatdesktop wrote on February 15, 2016, 1:59 PM

We sometimes say, I've won the battle but not the war. Or a in most challenges, 'Can I have another round at this?' Ever see two people arguing? usually it is because neither of them is listening and both of them are talking or griping or yelling. Nobody can hear what the other is saying and neither is willing to listen to the other and so on . Reminds me of the debates on t.v. sad state of affairs I think.

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CoralLevang wrote on February 15, 2016, 2:27 PM

What is fascinating is one other peoples stop the arguing and don't respond. They don't walk away but they don't respond and it makes the other so unhappy. It cracks me up when people simply have to leave, and they say they won't put up with it, but then they come back for more often times in a different form. People really are fascinating creatures especially when it comes to dis- Agreement.

MegL wrote on February 15, 2016, 2:39 PM

A lot of this is talked about in Eric Berne's book "Games People Play" I read it many years ago and was horrified to find I played some of those games! I may re-read that book some time and check that I have not reverted. emoticon :grin:

DWDavisRSL wrote on February 15, 2016, 3:19 PM

Humanity is not the civilized race we pretend to be. You don't have to scratch very deep beneath the surface to learn what we are really like. Just look at Ferguson, Baltimore, New Orleans immediately after Katrina, or countless other examples. Civilization is a thin veneer and it doesn't take much to rip it away.

DWDavisRSL wrote on February 15, 2016, 3:21 PM

One thing I constantly remind my students of is that it takes two to make an argument. If one refuses to participate the other just looks like a fool. Unfortunately, among a certain demographic, getting in the last word is taught from birth, or so it seems, and those kids always have to say one more thing. It's as if they think their heads will explode if they don't spew as much nonsense as the person spewing at them.

MegL wrote on February 15, 2016, 3:32 PM

That is very true, unfortunately. emoticon :sad: But there are probably also some awesome stories from there too. Maybe they don't get reported as much, maybe they are unseen.

CoralLevang wrote on February 15, 2016, 3:45 PM

Of course! We are all capable.

CoralLevang wrote on February 15, 2016, 3:45 PM

Both the good and the bad and humanity come to light in situations such as that. I just wish we were all more thinking people

BarbRad wrote on February 16, 2016, 4:16 AM

I really try to stay out of those situations. I just don't have the energy to fight for anything but important principles.