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Are We Sharing Too Much Online?

With so many social networking websites on the Internet, are we sharing too much? I’ve come across people sharing intimate details of their lives which I will not do. I feel awkward even to post a picture of myself online. But I see people post their photos and they don’t seem to care who will see those pictures.

My daughter is one such person. She’s always posting pictures of herself on Facebook but my other daughter, even though she post pictures of herself on Facebook, she had made her profile private and only her friend can see those pictures. But her friends might let their friends see them and my daughter’s pictures won’t be private anymore.

I can see the reason why some people share intimate details of their lives on the Internet. People can be quite supportive when another person shares about his/her suffering from some illness. And this makes going through the suffering not too much of a burden on the sufferer. It’s quite a relief to find a lot of support and many people can be quite supportive on the Internet.

On the down side, there are also many trolls and mean people who hurt others but this makes up the minority. Most people on the Internet are quite nice. I haven’t been trolled before and if I were to be bullied online, I would just ignore the bully. That should stop them from bullying me further.

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CoralLevang wrote on December 29, 2015, 12:55 AM

Bullying can take the face of many forms; sometimes, it is hard to ignore it, because it comes veiled as many other things.
Let us all, who are the recipients of this, be able to ignore it, so it will just go away.

carolamfg wrote on December 29, 2015, 1:13 AM

I think that people do share too much online. I have encountered trolls myself. All they want to do is upset you or try to force you to accept their point of view if they disagree with something you said. Ignoring them can enrage them and make them worse, but eventually, they will realize they are wasting their time.

Paulie wrote on December 29, 2015, 2:12 AM

The problem with sharing too much on social media sites is that what you reveal about yourself could be used to blackmail you. This could be the case if you have a sensitive job position and what you reveal on line is used against you.

UmiNoor wrote on December 29, 2015, 2:43 AM

People of the Internet should rally together against such bullies.

UmiNoor wrote on December 29, 2015, 2:45 AM

I feel that it's easier to ignore bullies online than offline. In the real world, bullies shouldn't be ignored. They should be confronted by the bullied person because the more they are ignored, the more they bully. They just want your reaction and the reaction they want is that you fear them and if you show that you don't fear the bully, they will stop but if you ignore them, they will continue to bully. On the Internet, it's a different case, bullies can be ignored because what they want is the attention. Once they don't get the attention they crave for, they'll go away.

UmiNoor wrote on December 29, 2015, 2:48 AM

That is true. Some people just don't realize that when they share too much, people will know things about them that shouldn't be known. My daughter once encounter such a situation where a friend didn't want to come to a class meeting because she said she wasn't feeling well and then on her Facebook page, on the same day, she posted a picture of her having fun at a party. Wasn't that a stupid thing to do?

HappyLady wrote on December 29, 2015, 6:28 AM

I think it depends on the person. It also depends on how much of a public profile you need to keep for what you do. I don't really mind sharing most things as I think what I went through is to help others, but I know how to deal with a troll and I do have an idea of how to keep certain details safe. When I worked for a major organisation I made sure my Facebook was not under my name and refused to add workplace people. I decided that was too risky and that they were too nosy!

cheri wrote on December 29, 2015, 7:32 AM

I have never shared too much online and its quite annoying to see other people do. However, I just try to understand and ignore it.

CoralLevang wrote on December 29, 2015, 9:34 AM

I agree. But it is not so easily done. Like in other situations, the Internet is made up of people. Most people do not want to get involved. They will sit back and watch it happen without a word, but will talk about it after the fact about how wrong it is.
Most people are afraid of retaliation. We see that throughout history.

CoralLevang wrote on December 29, 2015, 9:41 AM

There is a thin line here, I think, that is often confusing. Many want to say what they believe, but do not want to be asked questions about it, because they do not really know. So, the question is seen as an affront, rather than an opportunity to understand or learn. It's that whole perception piece. Many people, as I have come to understand, cannot tolerate being asked to explain themselves, so they turn the tables around and are seen as trying to upset the apple cart. Unfortunately, in the online world, we do not have the beauty of face-to-face interaction so we can see body language or hear tone of voice. We end up filtering what we read with the only filters we know, dependent on our experience(s) in life.

CoralLevang wrote on December 29, 2015, 9:44 AM

If people want to blackmail you, they can do so, with or without the Internet. I agree that when we are in sensitive jobs, we have much more to be concerned about. But that is why there are standards set for those types of employment, i.e. security clearances. The face of those clearances has changed with the advent of the Net.

CoralLevang wrote on December 29, 2015, 9:48 AM

I have to agree here with you, HappyLady . It is certainly situational, as well as personal choice. There are many scenarios that could fall into this discussion, it is hard to know exactly what all people are defining as "too much" information.

I think that we all get to make choices. Some of us are much more disclosing, because we see openness as a way to offer our own situations as a way to help others. That makes some other people uncomfortable. Not much different in the f2f world.

CoralLevang wrote on December 29, 2015, 9:49 AM

I have to agree that, in this situation, this girl was not thinking.

CoralLevang wrote on December 29, 2015, 9:53 AM

"However, I just try to understand..."
As we try to understand others, we become (hopefully) more tolerant of those who choose differently than we do, cheri .
You are quite accepting of others, even when we may annoy you. emoticon :winking: For that, I am immensely grateful! emoticon :grin:

CoralLevang wrote on December 29, 2015, 9:53 AM

GREAT discussion, by the way, UmiNoor !