Kiss It and Make It Better
When you first hold your newborn child, promising to love and protect them forever, you can hardly think about them being six months old, let alone 20 years or more later when they are adults.
There are bumps and bruises along the way. We kiss away the tears, and make things better, and get them through their childhood, and teen-aged years. We do all we do the best we know how.
Of course, at 20-years-old, they are on their own paths. They know better. We, as parents, who are now rather "dumb," can only hope that what we have taught and the advice that we have passed along has been taken to heart, and not fallen on deaf ears.
We might also hope that our child is not as stubborn, as we once were in complete disregard for anyone who might have an answer or advice other than that which is in alignment with the only option considering--"my way."
Fast-forward 20 more years and your child is now in his or her 40s. It has been a long time since you have been able to hold him or her in your arms and kiss away the tears, making it "all better."
You still want to protect them. Sometimes, they still ask for advice, but they still have to do it with the "my way" mentality, because (god-forbid) Dad or Mom may know something. They (the adult child) will lash out and be angry, accusing the parent of saying, "I told you so," when all along it has nothing to do with the parents, but the realization that they were right all along.
"Step on in, embarrassment! Move over, shame!"
It will be a cold day in hell before the words, "I am sorry," will pass through the lips of the one who looks so much like you. Many an adult child has choked on these words.
If we are all lucky, the child will turn 55 or 60, and the parent will still be alive to see the day when it feels softer, more loving, and reminiscent of the days when you were able to look out for your child.
Except this time, they may be mature enough to kiss away the tears and make things better before it is too late to do so with you.
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