Bandaids Don't Help
Over the years, I have found ways to try to protect myself from pain and vulnerability in relationship to others.
Mostly, I have distanced myself (real or figuratively-speaking) or have found something else to justify my decisions to end the relationship. Sometimes, I simply do something to try to cover up the wounds life dishes out, as if using a bandage so that others will not be able to see the wounded me.
I realize that I am not alone in doing this. The "walking wounded" inhabit the earth.
When we "cover up" who we are and refuse others the opportunity to see us in our authenticity, the wounds are never allowed to heal. But when we allow those wounds to "air out," the scars become a natural bandage.
There are certainly times when some of the people who we have included in our lives will not want to look at us as the whole person. They will find the wounds and scars too grotesque for them to be able to see the beauty that lies underneath.
When these people turn from us, walk away, and leave us feeling exposed for kill, our natural reaction might be to cover-up again. Perhaps, we do so because we feel shamed for not fitting within the image or expectation that someone else sets up for us.
There comes a time when we must stand and no longer be ashamed of who we are. We must shed ourselves of the bandages. Be who we are in all our glory. Accept ourselves as the whole, rather than parts we hide or show based on our fears and whether we are "good enough" in someone else's eyes.
All of us have our wounds and scars. Yours are no worse than what others have. Remember that there will always be someone who cannot (or will not) see the beautiful you underneath them.
Keep loving yourself and do not cover up, because the bandages don't help.
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BANDAIDS DON’T HELP
Not a version of you
That you think
I need you to be.
You are free
To be you
Let me see.
You saw mine.
You did not
You will find
That you are
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Copyright © 2013 Coral Levang
“Bandaids Don’t Help” (the poem) was written by the author and originally posted online 08/30/2010 at Yahoo! Voices [formerly Associated Content]. Article was submitted in July 2013 at Bubblews, but removed by the author, before resubmission here at Persona Paper.
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