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If I could go back at talk to my teenage self I would defiantly tell her to wait. I have two children from a union, that didn't have much time for flourish. We only knew each other less than a year, to be honest we never even talk about marriage or children until I got pregnant. Well long story, after two and half years and two babies, the union ended. I was left with all the responsibility. And when I say all the responsibility, I mean all. One of the things that most teen mom don't realize is that they will most likely stay in a impoverish situation until mostly the kids are teen themselves and even then it could be on going. Unfortunate, these things can't always be taught; I know this, because I have a daughter who was a teen parent too. I did everything I could to discourage this, but she felt like she was in love and ready. I couldn't stop her. Well like the old saying going" the fruit don't fall that far from the tree". When she was a teenager I just had gotten my first stable job (I was 35). I thought my life at that time would be getting better, but that didn't happen. She was a teen without money, and so was he. Though she did get on gov. assistant I still had to help out and continue to this day. So If I could talk to any teen, I would tell them to wait. Being a mother is not hard, being a mother without any resources is down right agonizing. I would have wish for hard, hard would have been bearable. After the two, I didn't through my hat back into the arena, I tapped out. I had learned a valuable lesson about being unprepared....

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Feisty56 wrote on October 22, 2015, 12:17 PM

I understand your struggles as a young single mother. You're right, the lack of resources make the experience for both parent and children an uphill battle all the way. Unfortunately, despite our best advice and even the child's own life experiences are often not enough to prevent a repeat of history. There are just some things as human beings we seem to have to find out for ourselves.

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Kasman wrote on October 22, 2015, 4:00 PM

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Dawnwriter wrote on October 24, 2015, 4:12 PM

Hello and a very warm welcome to Persona Paper. I am sorry to hear about your struggles. Your articles here can help other people who are struggling with similar problems.

cheri wrote on November 3, 2015, 10:10 PM

It is really impressive that you are brave enough to admit that you learned a lesson.
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LeaPea2417 wrote on December 11, 2015, 4:10 PM

Hi, it is nice to meet you on here. I look forward to reading and interacting on the future posts that you decide to write about.

lookatdesktop wrote on December 30, 2015, 6:34 PM

I bet the guy made you lots of promises he never kept. These young male studs are all the same. They get you with words then once they have you they run away leaving you with the burden of raising the children. My sister was married at age 14. It is a sad but all too common reality today. Good luck with writing here at Persona Paper. You can make friends with many nice people. I can certainly related to where you're coming from. And I can sympathize with you.