The Choice Is Yours
We must change the lenses through which we view the world, if we want to grow beyond those things which rob us of joy.
I deal with a great number of people on a regular basis. Whether face-to-face or in a virtual environment, I listen and observe them in a variety of situations, whether simple day-to-day, business, or global.
There seems to a common thread of which I have been keenly aware for over two decades: The way we choose to view situations and the world around us is tied to our overall success and happiness in the lives we lead.
We can agree that each of us will define "success" or "happiness" differently, by whatever standard we have chosen. It is based upon our upbringing, belief system, culture, experiences, or any other number of factors.
However, it fascinates me that there are those who have reached the heights of success--those who "have it all"--and they are some of the most miserable people I have ever encountered. Their attitudes and the words they choose to describe most everything in life soils all that they touch.
Most of us (yes, I include myself) do not realize that we do this, until someone points it out. We may take notice, and try to alter our words, when we are around them. We walk the fence, putting on a great show, but it is hard work. So, we seek out those people who do not challenge us; people who think like us, so we do not have to change. It is easier to avoid those who challenge us and ask us to think.
At some point in life, we have to make a choice. We can choose to look at any situation and see the good in it, and adjust our thoughts and language, accordingly. Or we can can choose to look back or stay "stuck" in whatever keeps us from contentment in life.
"The only thing you have control over is perspective. You do not have control over a situation. But you do have a choice about how you view it." -- Chris Pine
We have to account for who we are, what we have chosen, and how it has impacted where we are in life, what we feel, and any collateral damage our choices may have caused. We must consider our own thoughts and behaviors, rather than blaming others or the situations.
We must be HONEST with ourselves. It is not enough to say that we are positive.
I had a former employer who taught me this lesson:
Believe what people DO, not what they say.
There is a difference between success and contentment. As well, contentment is not synonymous with complacency. So, yes, I am asking you to think. I recognize that I cannot force your willingness to do so.
I simply ask you to consider being joyful from your very core. The rest is up to you.
Have you taken Kasman 's Poll? -- What's your outlook on life - positive or negative?
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