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The Choice Is Yours

We must change the lenses through which we view the world, if we want to grow beyond those things which rob us of joy.

I deal with a great number of people on a regular basis. Whether face-to-face or in a virtual environment, I listen and observe them in a variety of situations, whether simple day-to-day, business, or global.

There seems to a common thread of which I have been keenly aware for over two decades: The way we choose to view situations and the world around us is tied to our overall success and happiness in the lives we lead.

We can agree that each of us will define "success" or "happiness" differently, by whatever standard we have chosen. It is based upon our upbringing, belief system, culture, experiences, or any other number of factors.

However, it fascinates me that there are those who have reached the heights of success--those who "have it all"--and they are some of the most miserable people I have ever encountered. Their attitudes and the words they choose to describe most everything in life soils all that they touch.

Most of us (yes, I include myself) do not realize that we do this, until someone points it out. We may take notice, and try to alter our words, when we are around them. We walk the fence, putting on a great show, but it is hard work. So, we seek out those people who do not challenge us; people who think like us, so we do not have to change. It is easier to avoid those who challenge us and ask us to think.

At some point in life, we have to make a choice. We can choose to look at any situation and see the good in it, and adjust our thoughts and language, accordingly. Or we can can choose to look back or stay "stuck" in whatever keeps us from contentment in life.

"The only thing you have control over is perspective. You do not have control over a situation. But you do have a choice about how you view it." -- Chris Pine

We have to account for who we are, what we have chosen, and how it has impacted where we are in life, what we feel, and any collateral damage our choices may have caused. We must consider our own thoughts and behaviors, rather than blaming others or the situations.

We must be HONEST with ourselves. It is not enough to say that we are positive.

I had a former employer who taught me this lesson:

Believe what people DO, not what they say.

There is a difference between success and contentment. As well, contentment is not synonymous with complacency. So, yes, I am asking you to think. I recognize that I cannot force your willingness to do so.

I simply ask you to consider being joyful from your very core. The rest is up to you.

Have you taken Kasman 's Poll? -- What's your outlook on life - positive or negative?

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deafdiva wrote on October 8, 2015, 3:00 PM

yep attitude is very important in how we view life!

Kasman wrote on October 8, 2015, 4:01 PM

I'm not sure I know anyone who has reached ''the heights of success'' but I do know a few who present a certain face to the world - and then completely fail to live up to it. Their actions really do speak louder than their words and whenever they pontificate on a subject you just know they will do the opposite. They are neither honest nor positive and inner joy seems to elude them every time.

CoralLevang wrote on October 8, 2015, 4:45 PM

So very true, deafdiva !

CoralLevang wrote on October 8, 2015, 4:46 PM

&AbbyG It makes perfect sense. And I think that if life were to through you a wrench or two, if it has not already done so, you would be one to roll with it and make the best of what life dishes.

CoralLevang wrote on October 8, 2015, 4:50 PM

Kasman "Inner joy" can be rather confusing to some. But it will never come to fruition as long as we look to point our fingers outside of ourselves. I have received this lesson many times, but it seems like I am starting to "get it." But I most certainly will not be too cocky about that one! Just when I think I've arrived, there's another lemon that is thrown as a curve ball. I feel like I'm getting to be an old pro at making lemonade! emoticon :winking:

CoralLevang wrote on October 8, 2015, 5:26 PM

Perhaps, but your intent, while bitching, would not be to make everyone else's life so miserable as yours at that moment. emoticon :winking:

wolfgirl569 wrote on October 8, 2015, 5:48 PM

I need hubby to learn tat. I constantly have to remind him that he is not allowed to be a gloomy gus. He is getting better but still lets things and people bring him down more than he should.

CoralLevang wrote on October 8, 2015, 5:55 PM

Our attitudes (neg or pos) really do become a habit. I have observed it here and other places on the Web a lot. And we think that we are positive, but if we were only stop for a moment and watch the words we use, at certain articles, blogs, issues, we can start to see patterns in others and in ourselves. It really is fascinating to me.

markgraham wrote on October 8, 2015, 7:16 PM

To be honest I am content to a point,but I like change. I think that is why I went back to school and why I wanted to write. Life was routine I needed to do something different.

DWDavisRSL wrote on October 8, 2015, 7:29 PM

When people ask me if I am a glass half-full or half-empty person I respond by asking them if I'm filling the glass or drinking from it. I try to be the one filling others glasses with positive comments and compliments.

Paulie wrote on October 9, 2015, 2:51 AM

Wow! If only i were as articulate as you CoralLevang in expressing my ideas. What you say is correct, and yes, it is hard for a lot of people including myself to think. Things most probably would have been different in my life if I had looked on people and situations with a different perspective.

CoralLevang wrote on October 9, 2015, 3:38 AM

This is one of the reasons, I like you so, DW. emoticon :smile:

AliCanary wrote on October 10, 2015, 4:01 PM

Well, like the song says, it's not getting what you want; it's wanting what you've got.

CoralLevang wrote on October 10, 2015, 4:54 PM

you are no different, Paulie , than the rest of us. Your life is what it has been. But you have a chance to always change your perspective. That is the beauty of LIFE and freedom to make different choices.

Thank you for the kind compliment.

CoralLevang wrote on October 10, 2015, 4:55 PM

And here I thought the song was, "...if you can't be with the one you love, love the one you're with..." emoticon :winking: LOL

AliCanary wrote on October 10, 2015, 4:58 PM

Different song!

Paulie wrote on October 11, 2015, 2:58 AM

Yes, we have freedom to make different choices, but there are consequences for any choice we make.