Complaint About Complainers Who Complain
I try to see the good in most everything that happens in life--to see beyond the challenges I face. I also try to see the good that people are, rather than the negative aspects that make me want to choke the living crap out of them.
But even I am human. So, here I go...
I am of the mindset and have heard it said many times throughout my life, "If you are going to complain about something, you now own a part of it and better have a solution."
So, even when I write things sharing my annoyances, whether with computer glitches, people who do not read yet say "nice post, happy xxxx-ling" on heart-wrenching articles, and any other number of things that can bug me, I make a conscious effort to do so with a sense of humor, or come up with other solutions and suggestions, and try to show others that we have to look on the bright side of whatever we are facing.
Sometimes my sense of humor can be pretty irreverent and often misunderstood as not taking someone else's plight into consideration. But I do understand life is not knowing what the next day is going to hold for me, just as it is for anyone of us. It is everything in life. Certainty about policy, payment, or any other number of things that life may be thrown one's way is never certain.
Part of how I see life, and my sense of humor used, can be blamed on my family.
Soon after my carcinoid cancer diagnosis, my cousin Dan (he's several years old than I), whom I did not know very well growing up, and I were having a chat. He and I started joking about death.
He shared "Monty Python's Life of Brian" song "Always Look on the Bright Side of Life." (I know it will be offensive to those who take everything very seriously, especially where religion and the crucifixion of Jesus is concerned.) And the two of us laughed ourselves silly on that phone conversation as we talked about end-of-life issues.
There are some things over which we have absolutely no control. But we do need to control ourselves and make sure that we do not go out of our way to bring others and what they are trying to accomplish down in the dumps along with you.
That does not mean that we cannot feel or share those feelings with others.
We all have things that we want to see resolved. We can use the power of the pen--writing articles--which point out some of these issues, but do so in a way to show our SUPPORT of the greater good. We can offer up ideas, but whatever we say, we must try to do so in a way that will not polarize, but share a spirit of collaboration.
However, what really perturbs me most (and here comes my biggest complaint of complainers who complain) is this:
Complainers who choose to leave their complaints about their issues on (fill-in-the-blank-websites) as comments on other community members' articles--messages that cannot be deleted.
How rude this is! I have so little tolerance of this and my filters get thrown to the wayside. I become protective of my "tribe," ( Ruby3881 and lexiconlover can both attest to this, whether here or elsewhere around the Web!)
May we all be reminded that online writing sites offer more freedom and opportunity to its writers in what and how they communicate, and any compensation they may receive, than many of the governments of the countries in which some live have ever allowed.
Does this mean that things are perfect? Of course not. Nor does it mean that there will not be disagreements or issues or annoyances. But we must always take it up with those who can do something about it. And if you are not getting results, propose other solutions.
I understand the frustrations. I also understand that the glitches and errors and all of life's other annoyances can get the best of us sometimes.
Believe me, I have had my moments. Feeling like one has no influence or control over situations stinks. But please be a solution-builder.
If not, someone might just want to choke the living crap out of you.
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"Some things in life are bad, they can really make you sad, other things just make you swear and curse. When you're chewing on life's gristle, don't grumble, give a whistle, and this'll help things turn out for the best...
"For life is quite absurd and death's the final word,. You must always face the curtain with a bow. Forget about your sin, give the audience a grin. Enjoy it, it's your last chance anyhow.
"So...always look on the bright side of life/death..."
Source: "Always Look on the Bright Side of Life" www.youtube.com/watch?v=jHPOzQzk9Qo
(Note: I recognize that many will not "get me" here. Please note that I wrote it originally a year and a half ago. I have contemplated submitting it here, and have not done so until today, partly because it was sparked by something that lexiconlover wrote today. Please do not take this, me, or yourselves too seriously. )
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Adapted from original written May 14, 2014 and published on Bubblews, and removed later by the author
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