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Complaint About Complainers Who Complain

I try to see the good in most everything that happens in life--to see beyond the challenges I face. I also try to see the good that people are, rather than the negative aspects that make me want to choke the living crap out of them.

But even I am human. So, here I go...

I am of the mindset and have heard it said many times throughout my life, "If you are going to complain about something, you now own a part of it and better have a solution."

So, even when I write things sharing my annoyances, whether with computer glitches, people who do not read yet say "nice post, happy xxxx-ling" on heart-wrenching articles, and any other number of things that can bug me, I make a conscious effort to do so with a sense of humor, or come up with other solutions and suggestions, and try to show others that we have to look on the bright side of whatever we are facing.

Sometimes my sense of humor can be pretty irreverent and often misunderstood as not taking someone else's plight into consideration. But I do understand life is not knowing what the next day is going to hold for me, just as it is for anyone of us. It is everything in life. Certainty about policy, payment, or any other number of things that life may be thrown one's way is never certain.

Part of how I see life, and my sense of humor used, can be blamed on my family.

Soon after my carcinoid cancer diagnosis, my cousin Dan (he's several years old than I), whom I did not know very well growing up, and I were having a chat. He and I started joking about death.

He shared "Monty Python's Life of Brian" song "Always Look on the Bright Side of Life." (I know it will be offensive to those who take everything very seriously, especially where religion and the crucifixion of Jesus is concerned.) And the two of us laughed ourselves silly on that phone conversation as we talked about end-of-life issues.

There are some things over which we have absolutely no control. But we do need to control ourselves and make sure that we do not go out of our way to bring others and what they are trying to accomplish down in the dumps along with you.

That does not mean that we cannot feel or share those feelings with others.

We all have things that we want to see resolved. We can use the power of the pen--writing articles--which point out some of these issues, but do so in a way to show our SUPPORT of the greater good. We can offer up ideas, but whatever we say, we must try to do so in a way that will not polarize, but share a spirit of collaboration.

However, what really perturbs me most (and here comes my biggest complaint of complainers who complain) is this:

Complainers who choose to leave their complaints about their issues on (fill-in-the-blank-websites) as comments on other community members' articles--messages that cannot be deleted.

How rude this is! I have so little tolerance of this and my filters get thrown to the wayside. I become protective of my "tribe," ( Ruby3881 and lexiconlover can both attest to this, whether here or elsewhere around the Web!)

May we all be reminded that online writing sites offer more freedom and opportunity to its writers in what and how they communicate, and any compensation they may receive, than many of the governments of the countries in which some live have ever allowed.

Does this mean that things are perfect? Of course not. Nor does it mean that there will not be disagreements or issues or annoyances. But we must always take it up with those who can do something about it. And if you are not getting results, propose other solutions.

I understand the frustrations. I also understand that the glitches and errors and all of life's other annoyances can get the best of us sometimes.

Believe me, I have had my moments. Feeling like one has no influence or control over situations stinks. But please be a solution-builder.

If not, someone might just want to choke the living crap out of you.

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"Some things in life are bad, they can really make you sad, other things just make you swear and curse. When you're chewing on life's gristle, don't grumble, give a whistle, and this'll help things turn out for the best...
"For life is quite absurd and death's the final word,. You must always face the curtain with a bow. Forget about your sin, give the audience a grin. Enjoy it, it's your last chance anyhow.
"So...always look on the bright side of life/death..."

Source: "Always Look on the Bright Side of Life"

(Note: I recognize that many will not "get me" here. Please note that I wrote it originally a year and a half ago. I have contemplated submitting it here, and have not done so until today, partly because it was sparked by something that lexiconlover wrote today. Please do not take this, me, or yourselves too seriously. emoticon :winking: )

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© Copyright 2015 - Coral Levang All Rights Reserved.

Adapted from original written May 14, 2014 and published on Bubblews, and removed later by the author

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MegL wrote on September 22, 2015, 4:45 PM

Love that song "Always look on the bright side of life" but it always seems so "wrong" to smile at it when the pictures are shown of people dying a horrible death. Of course, the fact that one man is moving his feet in time to the singing helps the feeling of surrealism!

CoralLevang wrote on September 22, 2015, 4:51 PM

MegL My cousin and I have had a few laughs about that. Because we both have such an odd sense of humor, he and I get along splendidly. The rest of the family doesn't quite get us.

and yes...surrealistic, it is.

Life is "wrong." We have to laugh or we shall cry.

alexdg1 wrote on September 22, 2015, 4:56 PM

You know, for me one of the most annoying things about Bubblews was that fake, chirpy, and juvenile non-comment "Nice post! Happy Bubbling!" that lots of members, particularly those from overseas, wrote on even the saddest articles. I hated that!

CoralLevang wrote on September 22, 2015, 5:10 PM

Yes, I wrote this for that site, but thought it was appropriate any where we go. I agree about that last thought....

I remember writing about the anniversary of my mother's death and the eulogy I wrote: "Nice post, Happy Bubbling!"
I used to ask the question, "What did you like about this post?" Or other things as I tagged them. Never a response.

MegL wrote on September 22, 2015, 5:43 PM

As a non B member, I did not know what happy ****ling stood for - now I know. Thanks.

MegL wrote on September 22, 2015, 5:45 PM

Sounds like someone was using either a robotic program to add comments to every possible post or they were paying people to add this comment. As the person adding the comment would have been unlikely to understand English or maybe didn't care because they were being paid to post, not to read, they pasted the comment at every opportunity, regardless of appropriateness. emoticon :sad:

alexdg1 wrote on September 22, 2015, 5:52 PM

To me, that was one of the most infuriating aspects of Bubblews. They paid out unreasonably high amounts for every interaction, including commenting on posts. That, in turn, attracted every Tom, Dick, and Harry from Arlington to Zimbabwe.

RonElFran wrote on September 22, 2015, 6:34 PM

Many people seem to have the idea that posting negative comments online is all about expressing themselves. They don't seem to realize that what they say impacts other people.

Feisty56 wrote on September 22, 2015, 7:37 PM

Hmmm, I wrote a lengthy comment and it disappeared. But I'm not going to complain, no sirreee. I'm simply making a briefer comment and leaving it at that. Problem solved. : )

wolfgirl569 wrote on September 22, 2015, 7:42 PM

Never heard that song but like the part you wrote. Some people complain for the sake of complaining unfortunately. For some it is a free for all to complain or criticize as they can hide behind fake names and a screen. It gives them a sense of power. They never think about another persons feelings.

CoralLevang wrote on September 22, 2015, 7:48 PM

wolfgirl569 Well, go to the YouTube link. But be forewarned that it is irreverent and very typical Monty Python!

CoralLevang wrote on September 22, 2015, 7:49 PM

Feisty56 LOL I like you. *hugs*

CoralLevang wrote on September 22, 2015, 8:39 PM

alexdg1 But it started out to give people a way to express themselves, regardless from where they came. In theory, that was a wonderful thing, and that was what appealed to so many of who believe in the freedom of Speech. From that perspective, Arvind and Jason had it right.

MegL There was great vision, but the management of such was misguided, and one person, in particular, forgot that integrity and honesty had to be the foundation for his vision to go the distance. As well, community doesn't work as well today in extreme hierarchy; leaders need others unlike themselves. I wish them the best in whatever they are doing in the future.

markgraham wrote on September 22, 2015, 8:42 PM

Several years ago or now very well put and I will always try to remember this.

alexdg1 wrote on September 22, 2015, 8:47 PM

But what ended up happening was that lots of people got greedy and broke the rules. Arvind and Jason also didn't have a system in place to prevent fraud or "gaming the system."

CoralLevang wrote on September 22, 2015, 8:51 PM

True, but that's something that we can debate until blue in the face, and it defeats the purpose of this post. It is what it is, and there are some things now that we just have to let go. Some went to the BBB and won their complaints/arguments. Others did not make the effort to do so.

I'm glad that I found PP and that there is honesty and great community here.

Last Edited: September 22, 2015, 8:53 PM

CoralLevang wrote on September 22, 2015, 8:54 PM

Thank you, Mark!

DWDavisRSL wrote on September 22, 2015, 9:15 PM

I read this post through twice and agree with what you say though I won't say I completely understand all the feelings you describe because there is no way I could. I do heartily concur that people who are adept at pointing out problems without offering solutions are of little use to anyone.

Also, as to the last line before the asterisks, isn't one of the main causes of stress fighting back the urge to choke the living crap out of some jerk who desperately needs choking? And people wonder why teachers want a good stiff drink after some parent conferences.

CoralLevang wrote on September 22, 2015, 9:55 PM

Hmmmm....okay, so to lessen our stress, we just need to choke 'em first, and THEN have a good stiff drink. Got it. emoticon :winking:

lexiconlover wrote on September 22, 2015, 10:59 PM

I want you to know how much appreciate being a part of your tribe, and how much I loved this post.

A lot of what I write online allows me to not have to have such a strong filter on my words and writing. I know I'm not going to make everyone happy, someone somewhere is not going to like what I have to say or is going to be offended. But that's their problem and not mine. I refuse to walk on eggshells or not voice my thoughts, which I think I have made clear with some of my more thought driven posts. Lol.

lexiconlover wrote on September 22, 2015, 11:01 PM

If only I still drank. :p

CoralLevang wrote on September 22, 2015, 11:18 PM

You can have the virgin margaritas. I'll drink the tequila. LOL

I don't drink tequila, btw. LOL

CoralLevang wrote on September 22, 2015, 11:20 PM

If only there would have been an Internet when I was 20, I would have been dangerously unfiltered. LOL

cheri wrote on September 23, 2015, 12:58 AM

We are quite the same about that. But just like you said...we are just humans.

CoralLevang wrote on September 23, 2015, 1:05 AM

Oh, damn the humanness of it all!! emoticon :winking:

Paulie wrote on September 23, 2015, 1:40 AM

I agree that if you have a complaint, you should have or propose a solution for the problem. Just out of curiosity, how long were you on Bubblews and how many bubbles did you post?

CoralLevang wrote on September 23, 2015, 2:16 AM

I signed up in May of 2013, and I wrote nearly 1000.

Paulie wrote on September 23, 2015, 2:46 AM

I joined in August of 2013 and can't remember how many bubbles I have.

Rufuszen wrote on September 23, 2015, 4:29 AM

I think we need a well developed sense of humour to get through!

inertia4 wrote on September 23, 2015, 5:47 AM

I think we all encounter these people on different sites. We all know how the comments were on the B site some time back. Those were those blood suckers who were only in it for the money. I have seen comments like those vague ones all over the internet. Some people just don't care. But in recent times over at the B site, I see more coherent comments. More in-depth ones. Comments where the person actually read the post. We do what we like as human on sites like this. Some also take on more than they can handle as well. So, if that is the case, don't complain. I know I have mentioned that I use all three sites and it is not easy. I go by my mood lately. Whatever site I am in the mood to be on. That seems to be working somewhat. All in all, no one should think or believe they are going to break the bank at any of these sites. It is not like it was on the B site with earnings. They screwed up, the people took advantage. Over all, all these sites need structure. That's what was lacking over there in the beginning.

CoralLevang wrote on September 23, 2015, 10:40 AM

I agree, Steven. Recently, I had a person here make comments of his/her annoyance that I was earning coins at the rate I do, and this person not doing so. It just leaves such an icky feeling when there is that kind of thing going on. After that, this person went to one of of my posts and made comments on over half of the others' comments. That annoyed ME! These are the negative things about people that drive me crazy, and that just put an icky feeling on it all. I have to remember not to be over-reactive, as my stress and annoyance are my own issue.
Not only do the sites need structure, we as human beings do, as well. Otherwise, we allow for the bullsh** to bug the crap out of us. emoticon :winking:

CoralLevang wrote on September 23, 2015, 10:43 AM

I am all for freedom of expression; however, by doing so, I think we have a responsibility to realize the impact. Many of us do not look in the mirror and honestly see all that we are. We only care to see the ego. The ugliness isn't always easy to acknowledge.
Thank you, RonElFran ... appreciate this comment.

CoralLevang wrote on September 23, 2015, 10:44 AM

I have removed most. I may have two things still up there.

CoralLevang wrote on September 23, 2015, 10:45 AM

Unfortunately, there are some who never develop it well, or not-so-well.

Rufuszen wrote on September 23, 2015, 12:10 PM

I sometimes get the feeling that they all get together to ambush me!

butchiepoo wrote on September 25, 2015, 1:39 PM

When it comes to a sense of humor mine is on the dry side as I grew up with hearing perverted humor which I am definately very dry on. I wished I had a better sense of humor to be honest as I enjoy laughter like the next person. I have to say to say in the past nearly 30 years since I gave my heart to Jesus I have experienced joy. To see someone and smile at them and they smile back at you, brings me joy. To see an elderly couple holding hands brings me great joy. To watch children worship God with all their little hearts also brings me great joy. To feel and know that I am loved by God my Creator brings me more joy than I can say, as I lived a very violent dysfunctional childhood so for there to be joys in my life I can't even tell you how very much it means to me. Thank you for your post. It made me think about a few things and I want you to know because of you I want to work on a better sense of humor and not be so serious all the time. I do have my moments of laughter but not to the extent that I believe God wants me to. I am coming around a little at a time with the understanding that not all joking is bad. I just kinda stiffin up when someone starts to tell a joke afraid its going to be a dirty joke which I don't care how much I try I will NEVER laugh at dirty jokes, there are such a turn off to me. Thanks again for your post.