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My mom's a perfectionist, sadly I am not.

My mom is amazing. No matter when you go to her place, every nook and corner is gleaming and there’s not a chair out of place. The curtains are always washed, straight and not a speck of dust anywhere.

Everything in her 3fridge and freezer is stored in an organized manner and she can cook a meal for 24-36 people easily because she has all basic ingredients cooked and frozen.

While my sisters and I were growing up, every weekend, she made us clean out cupboards, closets , bookshelves etc and there was never anything disorganized in our home.

I always saw her up things and putting away anything that was out of place. Her qualities are held up as an example in our extended families and everyone is full of praise for her cooking and housekeeping skills.

Now that I am married, I keep a house of my own., Sadly my housekeeping skills are not so great as hers. It is not that I like clutter but keeping a clean, organized house is very difficult with four active kids in the house.

But when I remind myself, she had five kids to raise, this seems like a paltry excuse. I sometimes feel ashamed of not taking after her but her perfectionism has come at a great cost to her health. She is not happy with anything less than perfect while I am not always bothered.

If you had to choose, what quality would you prefer...a perfectionist with an impeccable house or a happy, carefree soul..or is it possible to be both?

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cheri wrote on September 21, 2015, 1:39 AM

I am not also a perfectionist but I want to keep my house in an apple pie order. Believe it or not, its my father who has this character when it comes to home.

MegL wrote on September 21, 2015, 2:20 AM

Being a perfectionist is NOT good. Perfectionism can lead to great disorder because things are never perfect. I would say your mother is what Flylady calls "born organised". Those people do a little each day, so they don't have a huge lot to do all at once. Perfectionists often are not happy.

Paulie wrote on September 21, 2015, 2:42 AM

I definitely am a happy care-free soul who doesn't care that much about perfectionism in the home. Thankfully, my wife is the same.

lexiconlover wrote on September 21, 2015, 7:09 AM

I have found over the years that I am a perfectionist in certain areas and in others, not so much.

wolfgirl569 wrote on September 21, 2015, 9:55 AM

I dont worry too much how my house looks. It s lived in and shows it. I have an aunt like that. You even have to take your shoes off before going in her house to keep the carpet cleaner

paigea wrote on September 21, 2015, 10:53 PM

Doesn't everybody take their shoes off before they go in the house?

paigea wrote on September 21, 2015, 10:54 PM

I am not a perfectionist. I am sure you have plenty to do with 4 children. I wish my house were more tidy than it is, but I would never even try to keep it like your mother does.

wolfgirl569 wrote on September 22, 2015, 10:28 AM

Not around where I grew up

paigea wrote on September 22, 2015, 11:59 AM

That is interesting. I have never walked into a house without taking off my shoes.

CoralLevang wrote on September 22, 2015, 1:15 PM

I have to agree with MegL on this one. My father was a perfectionist and my childhood had many experiences around cleaning that were what some would label as abusive.

MegL wrote on September 22, 2015, 2:27 PM

Nope, nobody takes their shoes off to come into our house and I know of only two houses in the area where it is normal practice.

MegL wrote on September 22, 2015, 2:31 PM

My husband and one son have perfectionist tendencies and this can lead to NOTHING being done because whatever is done, it is NEVER good enough. A friend of mine is an artist who sells paintings and her son and daughter both have good artistic talents. Her daughter sells her paintings but her son in a tree surgeon (he cuts down or lops old trees) despite being an even better artist than his mother (according to her, I have no knowledge of art) because nothing he ever does EVER meets his own exacting standards. He would rather not paint than produce work that is not "perfect".

CoralLevang wrote on September 22, 2015, 3:07 PM

Part of those exacting standards could be in response to how he felt he grew up. It's funny how we often try to go opposite of what is expected. But that's for a whole new discussion, starting with a shrink. emoticon :winking:

paigea wrote on September 22, 2015, 9:23 PM

Wow, I don't know of two houses that I've seen in all of my life where one would leave their shoes on.