Late Night Rambling: Writing, People, Intention and Change, and the Choices We Make
I imagine that many who write or interact on the Internet maintain rather chaotic lives. Whether retired, unemployed, or working two jobs, each of us juggles so many things, and have this-or-that to fit in-between gaps and times.
We all have a life and relationships with which to deal, and we each write for reasons that are quite unique to us:
- Some people write to analyze.
- Some write to editorialize.
- Some are "Pollyanna-ish" in their writing styles.
- Others "poke the sleeping bears" that Pollyanna fears. Sometimes the bears wake up, and the Pokers realize they are ill-prepared to deal with the consequence.
- Some write to wax poetic.
- Others write to share history.
- Some write to create fantasy.
- Others write to complain, or speak ill of others.
- Some will write to inspire.
- Some of us write to share what we cannot otherwise share.
- And many others write for many other reasons, some simply to write.
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It is only by getting to know others--reading what they write, watching how they respond, listening to what they say, and paying attention to how they behave--that you will see patterns. You determine what you believe to be true about another to be able to judge adequately what you believe to be true about another person. Yes, I said, "judge."
Judgment begins with one's perception. It stems from a belief system that is based upon gathering what one thinks is enough "evidence" in any situation. Then it is viewed through the lens one develops by a life lived, the influence of the people around us, and what we have chosen to challenge or accept.
When we watch with an open mind, we discern whether or not it works for us, based on that perception. When we are in disagreement, some will make accusations of prejudice, judgement, or being mean-spirited. If we agree or keep silent, merely to "keep the peace," then we are agreeing to living a lie.
It is a dilemma for some. It is also a dynamic process. We have then chance to make different choices in the future, whether moment-to-moment or years from now. Other people are not required to agree with you or "tow the line," any more than you are required to do so.
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All choices come with a result. Some call that a "consequence" and attach a negative connotation to it. Some will even orchestrate the payback, subverting any good that might have been possible otherwise.
My understanding of the world in which we live is that life is chaotic.
Perhaps, it is that I watch for patterns, over-analyze, and think too much. Some have told me that I "care too much." I admit that I try to encourage others to think outside of a box that other people have built for them.
Whatever I share openly of my personal life or of my heart, whether in writing or at workshops, in speeches or one-on-one conversations, is never done with an intent of gaining sympathy, bullying, or to shame. I intend to illuminate a situation or challenge others to use critical thinking skills.
My intent is ONLY to make people think. Sometimes I do it with humor, albeit satire and sarcasm. Other times with fact or fiction.
I am also keenly aware that most do not care to delve into thought, as deeply as I do. Most seem not willing to ask tough questions or hear tough answers. People, in general, do not want to think beyond what their eyes can see a few feet in front of them. I am equally aware that one's argument (from a perspective of philosophy, communication, and persuasion definition of the word) also comes from this limited willingness to engage in discourse, other than what they may know in their scope of experience.
This is what frustrates me the most in life and about people, some very good people. It hurts me to believe that most of the conversations in this world will not change an outcome. Human beings seem to choose more reasons to build walls than to break bread with one another. Too often, it stems from an unwillingness to think or communicate beyond that which they let fall out of their mouths or from their fingertips.
My desire is to propel myself toward alignment with others who "get me." Please notice that I did NOT say, "agree with me." I have heard some describe this as "finding one's tribe."
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As we go through life and the chaos we encounter along our journey, we are often alone as we move through, and decide what to do taking the next few steps. Sometimes, we have to leap. We cannot expect that others will always understand those decision.
We, as individuals, are the ones who can change. Not others. And if they choose to change, it has nothing to do with us. That is on them. Their decisions.
This is true in our personal relationships at home or at work, in business dealings, or in writing on the Internet. No matter where life takes any of us, taking personal responsibility is key. Sometimes, change is necessary.
"It is me, and only me, who will determine who I am. I am enough. If necessary,I will will change, by making choices that I deem best for me, and my situation."~~C.A.L.
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