Learning to Surrender
Inspired by lexiconlover 's recent post this morning on playing victim vs.controlling oneself , and in light of what has played out in my family (see Life Has So Many Hurts ) , I have thought much about letting go. It is not an easy lesson for many of us to learn well.
It stems from our being a human. Others, too, are human beings, even though we may view them as sub-human, or alien.
There will always be someone or something that will wrong us. Others will purposefully connive with others as a way to hurt us deeply. Our own bodies will fail usk
We may feel the urge to explain and defend ourselves. Have the final word. Be heard. Retaliate.
At other times, we feel we must give up completely. Shut down. Walk away. End the pain.
Whether or not we behave in either of these sets of ways, each promotes an either/or solution. It leaves no other options. Only black or white. Wrong or right. Win or loss.
There is no in-between. There is no compromise. There is no co-existence.
Learning to let go is not about winning or losing. It is learning how to surrender the tight-hold we have on any situation, and on what we want to try to control in others.
When we begin to learn to find ways to co-exist with that which ails us, whether self-inflicted, doled out on us by others, or simply what we encounter from day-to-day, we find that we are able to see past the roles we choose as a victim.
We must learn to release the pain, and not kill the spirit of love for others, nor the influence we have to show kindness to others. We must learn how to live in spite of what we face, no matter what the struggle--others, illness, or ourselves.
We cannot give up. But we must learn to let go.
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