By in Family

Would You Enter Into An Arranged Marriage?

Starting next week a new reality show series will begin showing in Canada and the USA (and probably elsewhere as well), which involves two heterosexuals--who will not have seen each other before they begin walking down the aisle--getting married. A panel will have reviewed several hundred applications and then matched up couples based on their intelligence and lifestyle. If after the wedding and a lovely honeymoon they (still) can't stand each other, a divorce is readily attainable. The comments in a write-up on this were many and varied and, generally, quite negative. I don't see this as much different than arranged marriages which occur quite frequently in certain cultures, except in these instances it is the parents and not a put-together panel who match up the couples. Like all marriages, some are happy and others are not. I would, therefore, with certain stipulations, enter into an arranged marriage: Would you? Why or Why not?

Image Credit: Mine, of me.

Image Credit » Mine--of me.

You will need an account to comment - feel free to register or login.


peachpurple wrote on July 8, 2015, 7:13 AM

Unless i am in mid forties, then i would accept arranged marraige

MegL wrote on July 8, 2015, 7:44 AM

Yes, an arranged marriage is acceptable, NOT a forced marriage. I know a few couples who have had arranged marriages and they seem happy. Very often the "onlooker sees more of the game" and matching up people's abilities, likes and expectations may be better than using the old "falling in lurv" method. Mind you, I have been married for over 40 years now and i don't think i will be in the market for any other marriages of any kind, hope not, anyway!

JohnRoberts wrote on July 8, 2015, 3:57 PM

I guess it depends on the culture many of which arranged marriages are standard. The mail order bride business still flourishes. Personally, I would not do either.

Paulie wrote on July 9, 2015, 12:27 AM

I would never enter into an arranged marriage and think it is a bad idea. People might be compatible with the same intelligence and interests, but do they really have the same feelings? Are they sexually compatible? Most people test drive a car before buying, and that is why most couples either live together or have had sex together before they marry.

TheMightyThor wrote on July 9, 2015, 1:50 AM

What you are referring to dear is not a pre-arranged marriage. A panel analyzing, then personifying rate of compatibility according to standards of values, emotions and characteristics--personality, is the exact type of measure every prospect for companionship should self-assertively undergo. What I'm trying to say is, you can't just go out and grab a life partner whom you know nothing about who may not be compatible to your requirements. What the panel is doing is exactly necessary. I say this because I believe American marriages and marriages abroad would not be in the top fifty percent divorce rate if people took the time to undergo such a strategy. So 'no', I would not sign on to an arranged marriage lol.

bestwriter wrote on July 9, 2015, 3:06 AM

Different approaches to marriage have been discussed time and again and I am firm on my conviction and that is whether love, proposed or arranged, a relationship can only be judged when two get married to each other and start working on it. Needless to say there has to be something - a basis to work on a marriage and this is different for different people. Things change, circumstances change and that is where working comes.

cheri wrote on July 12, 2015, 4:40 AM

I am not sure but as of now I would not want to be in that kind of marriage.

CoralLevang wrote on July 17, 2015, 3:31 PM

I have two failed marriages, so they cannot be any different than this method. LOL If someone still wants me at 60, arrange it, please. But I do have my list of deal-breakers! emoticon :winking:

paigea wrote on September 27, 2015, 12:06 AM

I would not. I do know one couple who had an arranged marriage though and they seemed quite happy together.

LeaPea2417 wrote on December 12, 2015, 3:57 PM

I would not want this, because if my parents had arranged a marriage for me in the past, I would not have met my wonderful husband who I chose to marry. We have been married nearly 28 years.