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Why is a Strong Woman a Bitch?

Day 4 of the song challenge asks for a song that describes my life, but honestly I can't say I've ever encountered one that does. And I guess that's not too surprising. I was one of those kids who was never “seen” by the teacher on Romper Room and I could never find my name on any of those personalized key chains, coffee mugs or Coke cans either. When I spent a weekend learning storytelling with Luisah Teish and was asked to create a story that told my life, my story was not like anyone else's.

So I guess I will fudge a bit, and give you a song that describes my temperament, more than it does any of my life events. That song would be Bitch by Meredith Brooks.

Challenging, Going to Extremes

The song, also known as “Nothing In Between,” appeals to me because it embraces all of the different things a woman can be and it isn't at all apologetic about it. I also love that the song proclaims we don't have to be happy being squeezed into one little box and made to fit a label. I have always been my own person, and I never tolerated anyone wanting me to just be one thing to them.

I'm a little bit of everything
All rolled into one
~ Meredith Brooks (and Shelly Peiken) “Bitch”

There are a good many phrases that jump out at me: “I do not feel ashamed,” “going to extremes,” “You know I wouldn't want it any other way.” It's not just about the woman herself, but also about her relationship with her lover and with the world at large. It's bold and it's rude in ways that go beyond the use of the pejorative in the title and the chorus. It challenges all the stereotypes, right down to the floral wallpaper in the video!

And yes, that goes a long way to describe this sweet Cancerian with the big, fierce Leo rising.

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CoralLevang wrote on July 5, 2015, 4:16 PM

"This video contains content from UMG, who has blocked it in your country on copyright grounds."

That was the message I got clicking the link.

I think that, based on your description of the song, there may be some similarities in us.

MelissaE wrote on July 5, 2015, 4:25 PM

Ha, ha. I am strong-willed. I think that I would like you very much.

Kasman wrote on July 5, 2015, 5:01 PM

I got it OK from the UK!

Kasman wrote on July 5, 2015, 5:02 PM

Like most people you are different things to different people. Some may see you as hard and unforgiving but others will surely see the softer side of you. Most people are like that.

wolfgirl569 wrote on July 5, 2015, 8:33 PM

I love that song also. It fits many strong women.

GemOfAGirl wrote on July 5, 2015, 8:40 PM

Try this link:

GemOfAGirl wrote on July 5, 2015, 8:42 PM

That is one of my very favorite "I Am A Powerful Woman" anthems (I have a few, lol.) I think it stand the test of time pretty well, too, even better than Helen Reddy's "I Am Woman".

cheri wrote on July 5, 2015, 10:51 PM

Because women become stronger and upfront, others find them intimidating.

Shellyann36 wrote on July 6, 2015, 6:07 AM

I have been called a bitch several times in my life and normally it is when I am standing up for me and mine. I always thought Alanis Morriesette sung that song.

AliCanary wrote on July 6, 2015, 1:01 PM

Oh, I sang that at karaoke one night and absolutely rocked it! Women can own the word bitch, just like black rappers owned the "n-word".

Ruby3881 wrote on July 7, 2015, 2:44 PM

Wow! That isn't a terribly cozy domestic situation, is it? Sorry to hear that emoticon :sad:

Ruby3881 wrote on July 7, 2015, 3:12 PM

I'm really surprised that one wasn't available in the US. I believe it was from the official Vevo account for Meredith Brooks. Did the alternative link work for you, Coral?

Indeed, I am sure there are a lot of similarities between us, my friend emoticon :smile:

CoralLevang wrote on July 7, 2015, 11:29 PM

Oh, yes, yes....I got it. I know of that song. Just never knew the artist.
And yes, but most haven't been able to handle very long. Too many just give up. :(

KaraSkinner wrote on September 2, 2015, 7:04 PM

I love it when songs challenge stereotypes! I'll have to check this song out.