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Fathers Day Without a Dad

This is the first Fathers' Day since my father passed away earlier this year in January. It seems odd to me that I cannot call him and leave a message on his voice mail, even though he rarely would answer his phone when I would make the call.

Yet, there is sadness, knowing that I do not have the call to make. I will not hear his voice prompting the caller to "leave a message."

Ours was a troubled relationship. There is no denying it. Now is not the time to share why, nor to place blame. It was what it was, as it is what it is in so many families.

But I cannot help but realize that, despite the decades of obligatory unanswered calls, or the similarly sent holiday cards we each sent, we both knew Fathers Day without the joy of a "Dad." What we each had was simply a father.

For a Fathers' Day wish to all Fathers (and a few Mothers) from Coral Levang: CLICK HERE

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inertia4 wrote on June 21, 2015, 3:20 PM

CoralLevang It has to be hard not to have a mother or a father around on days like this. But to remember your father I am sure you have many pictures. Maybe even have his voice recorded somewhere. Those memories will never fade.

CoralLevang wrote on June 21, 2015, 3:40 PM

inertia4 I think it's harder to think about the decades wasted in not having a relationship. When I want to remember my "Dad" that I had as a kid, I go to youTube and watch the videos of him playing guitar on the TV show. You are right, those memories will never fade.

inertia4 wrote on June 21, 2015, 4:03 PM

CoralLevang That's what I mean really. Only the good memories is really what we all want to remember.

valmnz wrote on June 21, 2015, 4:16 PM

I still think of my Dad often, he is still part of my life even though I haven't had him for 46 years.

CoralLevang wrote on June 21, 2015, 4:24 PM

I think that there are many times we will remember those in our past, who were so close.

BarbRad wrote on June 22, 2015, 2:38 AM

It's a double bittersweet day for us. Both of us have lost our dads, but we also lost our children. So both Mother's Day and Father's Day make us sad. To top it off, tomorrow is our son's birthday. He would have been 24.

CoralLevang wrote on June 22, 2015, 9:31 AM

I will keep you in my thoughts today. Know that you have someone up north of you wrapping her arms around you in love.