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If you have a Neighbor Like This

Love your neighbor as you love yourself Mark 12:31.

But, come on, it is not that easy right? Especially if you have a mr.know-it-all,nosey, gossiper neighbor like ours.

What’s more difficult is that, he is the husband of my highschool buddy whose parents are my wedding godparents. So no matter how much I want to snap back at him I have to hold my temper.

I could vividly remember a couple of years back, when my husband told me “ Yobo (honey in Korean language) “ I don’t want you to get stressed about conceiving, okay? Rodeo, (not his real name)told me that marriage life is pointless if a couple do not have offspring. I think that’s ridiculous .”

That bum. What a pathetic and tactless creature, he is.

Last month, I had my dirty kitchen and picket fence repaired. Curiosity killed the cat. He approached the laborer and asked in a low voice, “ anung pinaparenovate ng may-ari?” ( what renovations did the owner ask you to do?”

He could have asked me directly when we bought soy milk from the peddler. But instead, he had waited for me to go inside the house before asking the question to the laborer.

After few days, he saw my mom ,together with our laborer, fixing the picket fence which was already loose because it has been four years since we DIY-ed it. He came and blabbed “ nag-lagay pa ng gate, ang baba naman.isang hakbang lang pasok agad.” He told my mom that our gate was useless because it was short (only 35 inches tall) . And, burglars can easily break in.

Every day (morning and afternoon) I go out to catch some fresh morning air and water my plants in my tiny garden. I don’t go out on the streets because of stray dogs with scabies and mongrels on the loose. Aside from that, my doctor advised me to avoid standing for long period. This nosey neighbor of mine always sees me morning and afternoon but never talks to me.

One day my mom told me this bum approached her and said,

“ How’s Jeanette?” , he asked.

“ She’s okay.She’s inside”. Mom replied.

“She never goes out.She should walk around outside from here to there. But she never goes out.She’s always inside the house. There’s no sunshine inside the house.

Mom uttered,” she is never allowed to walk and to stand for long period. She goes out every day except she never strolls around the neighborhood. Besides, there are lots of stray dogs hovering around.It’s dangerous.

“Then she should bring a cane to hit the stray dogs”, he insisted.

To my mom’s annoyance she left and went inside my house.

Just yesterday, my mom bought soy custard from our “suki”. The peddler asked my mom

“ how’s your daughter? Has she given birth already?.

My mom told him that I was still sleeping. My mom was surprised when the peddler knows that I would go on Cesarian section because she has never talked about it to anyone. I told her that I mentioned it the our bummer neighbor’s wife ( his wife was my HS classmate).

Two years ago, my husband and I went to Korea for winter vacation. None of our neighbors knew except just He and his wife. Since his wife was my former classmate, we invited them to our house blessing. That was how they found out about it.

After a month, my mom went to a sari-sari store few blocks away from my house. Since the village is barely new, the residents hardly know each other as well.

She was asked by the vendor, “ how’s the couple? Are they back?”

Mom was clueless “ who?”

Vendor: “ the couple. The Korean guy and your daughter. They have gone to Korea for vacation,right?”

My mom intentionally misled the vendor. “ No, they never left. They just don’t bum around the neighborhood.”

When my mom returned she told me what happened. I said, I haven’t even seen the face of the owner of that house with sari-sari store. I don’t even remember talking to any of our neighbors except for the bummer and his wife.

I hate that he relays information to our other neighbors and he is fond of meddling with my life.

am I being too sensitive? How would you feel if your neighbor is like this guy?


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Comments

peachpurple wrote on June 9, 2015, 6:22 AM

you sure have a nosey poker neighbor but ignore him, don't create havoc

wolfgirl569 wrote on June 9, 2015, 10:22 AM

I would quit telling my friend stuff that I dont want to get around first. Then confront him and tell him to mind his own business

Mommyjen wrote on June 9, 2015, 10:29 AM

That's exactly what I am doing now. Also, I don't go to my garden when he's out. I just want to shun away from trouble.

Mommyjen wrote on June 9, 2015, 10:35 AM

hell yeah.Hope he finds a job to keep himself busy. lol

Mommyjen wrote on June 9, 2015, 10:37 AM

Right wolfgirl569 . Whenever his wife asks me, " when is your husband coming back?" I always say " I don't know". lol

istory wrote on June 9, 2015, 11:03 AM

Turn the tables. Take control. Have fun with it. When he asks a question, answer it, with a smile, on a different subject. Or say the exact same sentence each time. He will soon think you are loonie. He will go bother someone else. :D

MegL wrote on June 10, 2015, 10:49 AM

Sometimes, nosey neighbours are useful. Most of the people where I live have been there many years and we have seen each other's children grow up, do well or get in trouble. We do not have to pretend with each other and also, there is always someone around, so we are less likely to have burglars. But it's awful when your neighbours want to become too involved or to know everything or you realise they have been discussing your affairs!