Lessons of Heart from Downton Abbey
I am feeling quite a lot of sadness today for some reason. I'm not sure exactly why. P erhaps, it is due in part to my having watched the first two seasons of Downton Abbey in the last five days.
Though I was certainly not born into English aristocracy, I rather feel and identify in many ways to the eldest daughter, Lady Mary. I also feel quite connected with the youngest, Lady Sybil. Each of these two strong characters have a sense of selflessness about them, though it can be difficult to see, at times. Some might see it as selfishness
The elder of the two denies her heart for the good of the family, making sure that all "looks good" and no one need be embarrassed by her. She has often "settled," just to keep up appearances. She is often seen as unapproachable, aloof, and cold-hearted.
The younger denies herself the love and acceptance from her family to go after who she is and what she wants. There is equally painful consequences for doing so. She is seen as impetuous and rebellious.
I see them both as courageous and loving.
I recently wrote this in response to a friend's question about my love life: ... I, unfortunately, gave my heart away years ago. One of those unrequited love stories. Crazy as it may seem, there are some who love so deeply and take loyalty (and love) so seriously that they end up giving away more than they will ever find. Perhaps, it is foolishness for some, but I think that is how I am hard-wired... I think I am destined to live without a love life. I am the quintessential "buddy."
I have often wondered how selflessness can so often being misunderstood or taken as frivolousness or foolishness in women. Worse yet, it saddens me that some can be seen as heartless, when they often are most capable of the most committed love.
© Coral Levang, 2015
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