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Dad Is Now Back Home

This did not post earlier (and I didn't save it either) so I'm having to start again. This isn't the first time I've had to do this (not with this article but with others in the past) and if it carries on, I'm off!

Anyway, at least Dad is settling down back at the house. Mum told me on the telephone earlier that he has his grumpy moments but - on the whole - he's been great. He loves his new bed in the front room but some adaptations work more than others. I will tell you more about these once they are sorted out by Occupational Therapy.

The best thing he's been given is a back rest so he can sit up in bed. With it being a normal, wooden framed bed, there is no adjustment on it like he had with the hospital bed, so this back rest helps him in sitting upright whenever he wants so he's not lying flat all the time. John actually bought himself two pillows like the Dorma ones Mum bought for Dad and they're brilliant. British made too which is always an added bonus.

I guess the main thing Dad has to get used to is space..or lack of it. The ARC was (obviously) geared up for wheelchair use with wide corridors and everything on the same level, plus the massive bathroom of course. Dad is a determined character as we all know and he's not easily beaten, so yes, it can be tight moving his wheelchair around at times but he makes the most of it and it's certainly not deterring him from trying. Once the weather improves (it has gone colder this week, unfortunately) Mum's determined to get him outside, even if it's a little trip down to the shops. They're all missing him down there!

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inertia4 wrote on April 28, 2015, 7:19 PM

Janey1966 I am glad to hear you dad is home. He sounds like a tough old cookie. Obviously he is set in his ways. Things will improve as time goes on.

MelissaE wrote on April 28, 2015, 8:16 PM

Love him and cherish him as much as you can. A good father is hard to beat.

allen0187 wrote on April 28, 2015, 9:46 PM

Hoping that your dad's condition continues to improve. He'll get used to his new surroundings soon enough.

jiangliu1949 wrote on April 29, 2015, 5:25 AM

Glad to learn that your Dad was back home .He had been in the hospital for about two months ,even though nothing compares with hospital in modern conveniences ,but there is no family atmosphere there,so he would feel relaxed after getting home and will get used to all in the house in the course of time .

Janey1966 wrote on April 29, 2015, 6:36 PM

Thanks. He could be difficult to live with when he wasn't ill to be honest but at least he has an excuse now to be grumpy, if you see what I mean. He is tough, you're right. Continues to amaze me, put it that way!

Janey1966 wrote on April 29, 2015, 6:38 PM

Aww, thanks very much. I am looking forward to seeing him a bit more as the last time he was at home he was so ill and drugged up he was hallucinating. Seeing him become more 'with it' both in hospital and the ARC was all well and good but to see him back at home will be more satisfying as - yes - he's only got one leg now but the pain is nowhere near as bad as it was.

Janey1966 wrote on April 29, 2015, 6:39 PM

He even likes the fact the pelmet has disappeared from the curtains. I thought he'd go up the wall about that but instead he said to Mum, 'There's more light coming in here now!' Always continues to surprise me does Pops!

Janey1966 wrote on April 29, 2015, 6:42 PM

Mum was a bit annoyed with him today because when she told him that his friend Joe was round he said, 'What's he doing here at this time?' Oh dear! Mum made a point of telling him that he's always been there for him (even when Dad was very poorly before going into hospital, if you remember) so I think Dad might appreciate him a bit more from now on..the neighbours certainly aren't bothered whether he's home or not. Waste of time the lot of 'em!

jiangliu1949 wrote on April 30, 2015, 2:11 AM

I remember Joe is a helpful person.It is nice of him to be round frequently at this moment when your Dad gets frustrated .Maybe your Dad was in a bad mood then ,so he said in that way .

inertia4 wrote on April 30, 2015, 8:38 AM

Janey1966 What parent isn't difficult? LOL. I know that first hand. It seems to me the older they get they become like children all over again. But that is life I guess. I just hope I don't turn into that when I reach their age.