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Why nagging does not work

We're all familiar with some form of nagging. The common form would be the nagging associated with our well-meaning parents.

The dictionary defines nagging as "constant harassing someone to do something."

Wow, to think that loving parents would harass their children just doesn't compute.

Children don't take well to nagging even though they may inwardly acknowledge it is for their own good.

Why nagging is ineffective is because it sometimes makes people angry.

It is not directly forcing a person but it is like finding fault with someone over and over.

What happens is that resentment will build over time.

At that point, whatever you say or do will not promote a healthy outcome in whoever's behaviour you wished to change in the first place.


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Comments

SebastianOnciu wrote on April 23, 2015, 1:04 PM

I agree, constant nagging was really unpleasant for me as a child and it still bothers me, that's why I try not do it with other people.

msiduri wrote on April 23, 2015, 3:47 PM

I had an unpleasant boss who nagged everyone. Having been nagged as a kid, I quickly learned to tune her out which just made her all the more unpleasant.

scheng1 wrote on April 24, 2015, 8:17 AM

Some children do not listen until their parents start to spank them. That is the time when the lesson sinks in.

allen0187 wrote on April 24, 2015, 8:17 PM

Naggign never works. Not with kids, not with people who are in relationhips, and certainly not with people who do not simply care.

crowntower wrote on April 25, 2015, 4:31 AM

Sure it doesn't work that way! Because you are right it does not build fear but resentment and anger. I hate it too when someone is nagging at me. And I don't think it is healthy it can be a verbal abuse to someone.