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Loyalty, What Does It Mean To You

Loyalty, A strong feeling of support and allegiance. There is an issue of loyalty between two of my own adult children. One child was denounced from being a "family" member when she showed concerned for a cousin who is seriously underweight and using drugs. The cousin kicked my child off of her facebook friends list a year ago and disowned her.

Recently the cousin sent party invitations to all my daughters brothers, but not to my daughter. two of the brothers (my sons) said they were not going. The third said he is going. So my girl is more than upset with my boy. All adults mind you!

Loyalty, when does it apply I wonder. Is this a case of show your loyalty. I can only answer for myself, I do understand what my daughter means this cousin was rude and insulting to my daughter and I, and she wants my son to stand up for us by not going. So of course I'm staying out of it, but I might think my daughters stance is more what I would expect from an ally

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Soonerdad3 wrote on April 17, 2015, 8:29 PM

I agree with what &AbbyG said, there different types of loyalties and you will probably better off talking to your son about it directly.

JustSaying wrote on April 17, 2015, 9:41 PM

Hi Abby! My son and daughter, both the babies, btw. lol...........spoke and now my son is not going either. I don't know what the conversation was , but I'm glad it's settled.

JustSaying wrote on April 17, 2015, 9:42 PM

Hi Sooner! Thank goodness it's settled. now no one is going to the party. lol.

Soonerdad3 wrote on April 17, 2015, 9:54 PM

That is definitely one way to settle it.

trufflehunter wrote on April 18, 2015, 2:55 AM

You are wise to stay out of it. Many parents would jump into the fray in defense of their children. By the way I think your cousin's behaviour was really out of order. And this deleting people of Facebook to prove a point? It's so childish.

KSmith84 wrote on April 22, 2015, 6:53 AM

Wow this is a tough one. Family feuds are always difficult to resolve because of the emotions involved. Maybe you should all consider counseling and just bury the hatchet.