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I do hope this article posts as I have been having tremendous difficulties, not helped by no reply to my complaint..but anyway, here goes.

This is the first week back after a two week visit to see Dad and Mum in Blackpool. Overall, things are OK but Dad is finding it increasingly difficult now to wheel his wheelchair. I reckon this is due to the cancer weakening him despite eating 3 meals a day! It is a big wheelchair, however, and one is in order for the time he is back home, which will be just before I next go back a week on Friday, all being well.

It looks like this mobile commode thingy can be taken apart so Dad would be able to sit on the chair with a hole in it and slide it over the toilet in the bathroom, enabling him to have some privacy in there, something that is very important. The bathroom is Dad's domain!

Currently, the weather is good at the moment so Dad can sit outside the ARC with a few of his friends he has made in there, for a nice chat. I have been in the grounds myself and there are trees and a bit of greenery to look at, with benches for visitors, so it's lovely when he can have this element of freedom to move about as he pleases. I only hope this transfers to the time he can come home. I shall keep you all posted.

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Dragonfairy1 wrote on April 9, 2015, 5:15 PM

Hi, I hadn't realised you were over here :). I'm pleased things are slightly improvising for your dad, and hope he gets that chair soon x

wolfgirl569 wrote on April 9, 2015, 6:09 PM

Glad to hear he is doing fairly good and should get to come home.

jiangliu1949 wrote on April 10, 2015, 2:48 AM

Nice to see your post again !I feel sad for his being condemned to a wheelchair which causes a lot of inconvenience and Your Mum will be under lots of pressure at taking care of him after he comes home.

inertia4 wrote on April 10, 2015, 8:05 AM

Janey1966 Sorry to hear about your dad. It is hard when they get old. I just hope I don't wind up like that. But the sad thing is we all get old. Hope he feels better, take care of him.

Janey1966 wrote on April 10, 2015, 8:42 AM

Hello! It's a good job Mum is 'on the case' otherwise nothing would get done. She is continually chasing people up for the slightest thing. In hospital it took them all their time to give Dad a wash. All a bit pathetic really but at least he can do that for himself..for now. We will cross that bridge when we come to it!

Janey1966 wrote on April 10, 2015, 8:45 AM

Thank you. I only hope he doesn't give Mum a hard time as she is an easy target compared to staff. It's common for the nearest and dearest to get the blame for everything but me going there every two weeks..well, he will have to behave himself! It's not Mum's fault he's poorly although I do sympathise with his plight, I really do.

Janey1966 wrote on April 10, 2015, 8:49 AM

Hello my friend! It is sad but necessary, unfortunately. To be honest, when the pain in his leg was at its most excrutiating he nearly died. When Mum and Dad went to see the Cancer Consultant a nurse was there who saw to Dad whilst on the Cancer Ward (one of the 4 wards he was on in total) and she said to Mum that it was 'touch and go' when he was first admitted. That gives you an idea how bad it was back then. Granted, his cancer isn't going to disappear but if he carries on smoking the way he is doing his other leg will be amputated as well! What a stubborn man he is!

Janey1966 wrote on April 10, 2015, 8:52 AM

I must admit, I have been thinking about growing old myself and how it may be for me in the future. Dad has been in pain for years truth be told and it took him all his time to take paracetamol, never mind the drugs he is on now. What a contrast! Glad to see the back of that gammy leg though and I have asked him about it and he's glad it's gone too, so at least the medics didn't pressurise him to have the amputation fact, it probably saved his life at the time.

jiangliu1949 wrote on April 12, 2015, 1:26 AM

I know it is hard to talk him into giving up smoking ,seeing that he is an inveterate smoker .However you may try to make him cut down on it step by step .