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Are You Responsible, or Irresponsible?

In past decades, it was almost always the parents who raised their children. This is only common sense. But why was it others -- often grandparents -- sometimes raised the children? It might be because the mother of the children had died. It was the general notion that women only are equipped to raise young children. Even if the father later remarries, the grandparents might continue raising the kids.

Today, young ones often give in to sexual urges without ever having developed any sense of right and wrong. They are living an "alternate lifestyle." Children that are born are an incidental nuisance (assuming they are even allowed to be born). On the other hand, some view them as a easy meal-ticket. They may feed the children only the least and the cheapest amount of food necessary to keep them alive. Happily, some take responsibility for their actions and raise their child as best they can.

Do you look forward to becoming a parent? What do you think? Is it in the best interests of brothers and sisters if they all have different fathers or different mothers?

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Soonerdad3 wrote on March 26, 2015, 8:19 PM

Wow, that is all I can muster after my first read through this post and going back to the title. I am a 50 year old dad of three kids (two adult kids 20+ years old and still living at home) my wife and I have been married for 29 years to my high school sweetheart. I think there far too many situations that make coming up with a cut and dry answer to your title question.

MelissaE wrote on March 26, 2015, 8:40 PM

I've been married to the same man for thirty years. We have two well rounded teens who are respectful, loving, and responsible. As for myself, usually I'm responsible. I do have lapses in judgment.

VinceSummers wrote on March 26, 2015, 9:22 PM

We all have lapses in judgment. What is being discussed here is willingness to take responsibility and, if one desires to be a parent, to be willing to become a responsible parent. If a person gets caught up in a moment and becomes pregnant and has a child, from that point on, they can be responsible. Shirking responsibility and passing it on to others is just wrong. There is no extenuating circumstance to repeatedly having children and expecting either the state or the grandparents to raise them. Loving grandparents are likely to take on the assignment, but that doesn't make irresponsibility OK.

Last Edited: March 26, 2015, 9:24 PM

Alexandoy wrote on March 26, 2015, 10:03 PM

I used to be an irresponsible wart when I was young. But when I had acquired a house of my own, now I am in charge of every details.

VinceSummers wrote on March 26, 2015, 10:11 PM

Many start out foolish in their younger years. Sadly, foolishness these days often includes a pregnancy.

Alexandoy wrote on March 26, 2015, 10:14 PM

On the other hand, pregnancy out of marriage is now the in thing. These are the days of the next generation.

VinceSummers wrote on March 26, 2015, 10:17 PM

Yes. Whatever THEY want, not what a baby needs. Why would they ever care about someone else?

luisga814 wrote on March 27, 2015, 5:02 AM

sometimes I am responsible but most of the time I will consider myself ad irresponsible.

crowntower wrote on March 27, 2015, 6:28 AM

I am not married that's why I don't have kids yet. But I guess it is all due to how the parent raised their kids, how irresponsible they are sometimes, or how they tolerate their kids too much, to the extent that they are willing to take care of their kid -- kids! Many people raising their kids and loving them in a wrong way that is why they grew up that way. And many kids are stubborn enough to rebel on their parents because they can't give what they want and end up a more burden to their parents as the time goes by.