What Shall We Do with Your Body?
This post by Feisty56 is about the various rituals associated with the death of a loved one and discusses her feelings about viewings, funerals and the like. JeanC commented that she would like to have a fun wake, over which her mortal remains would preside in an urn on the mantel, next to a slice of pizza. That made me wonder how everyone would like to be honored--or disposed of--after kicking the bucket. Funeral or wake? Burial or cremation? Big fat party, or somber remembrance? Or a somber remembrance followed by a big fat party? And if money were no object, would you want to go big, like to be shot into space, buried at sea, or cryogenically preserved?
My dad's people were always interred, but my mom's were cremated. She died before my father and was cremated, with a memorial ceremony and then kind of a punch-and-cookies mixer afterward at the church. My dad purchased one cemetery plot, with the plan that he would be buried as customary, but that my mom's ashes would be opened and spread over his corpse so that they could commingle as he decayed.
That was kind of romantic. Yucky, but romantic.
Even after Dad remarried, he kept the same plan, but when he got cancer and was about to die, he edited his wishes just slightly, asking to be cremated, whereupon his ashes would then be commingled with my mom's right away--no rotting necessary. I thought that was a better plan, and upon thinking about it, I am sure that it would have been terribly wrenching for me to have to actually physically scatter Mom's ashes over Dad in his coffin. Fortunately, the mortuary took care of the commingling part, once Dad was cremated. They now rest forever together in a large urn that was interred in the cemetery plot. My dad was a veteran and received a military funeral.
As for me, I don't want to take up any space--just cremate me and scatter my ashes in the flower beds of Rittenhouse Square, in Philadelphia. That's where my heart is, so I figure my kidney, lungs and spleen can join it!
Image Credit » http://pixabay.com/en/urn-stone-old-cemetery-historically-420076/ by stux