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Opinion: It Is in the Post Script

Some may remember the movie, P.S. I Love You , from nearly a decade ago based on a novel by the same name. It received horrible reviews, and I never cared much for Hilary Swank.

The story was based on a couple, the husband dying rather suddenly from a brain tumor. He has just enough time to make sure that he orchestrates some events where his intention is to get his wife to move forward after he is gone. Each is accompanied with a letter, which ends with "P.S. I love you."

Today, on my weekly visit to Bubblews, I am reminded of this story as the prominent male figure (CEO) writes a letter to his beloved (followers). To those who continue their undying allegiance, he shares (once again) his "love rhetoric" and teaching the meaning of life.

Theoretically, much of what he writes has value and truth. Some things even seem wise beyond years. He states this about love:

"Love causes people to stay in harmful relationships because they become so attached to someone or something, that they end up neglecting their self in favor of the person or thing that they do love. Love is dangerous when approached this way. Anything that deviates you from being who you are is very dangerous."

As the parable he to speak to his readers of judgement, self-worth, and love builds, he offers his answer in his final paragraph: Balance, relevance, and more love.

There is a P.S. added that speaks of delay, promise, and dedication, and a teaser about a release of a full-length eBook. It ends with " Sorry for the wait."

Life does, indeed, give us lessons in love, balance, self-worth, and whatever else we need to learn. Some of those lessons will be rather painful, as we are not always willing to see the bigger picture.

Of course, two people will present a philosophical argument using similar words to support their stances, each adept at making great points. Some would call that "spin." Is that spin manipulation? I would say that it is.

So, the question becomes: Is manipulation, in and of itself, bad?

I would say, "No." What one must consider is intent. And as one considers the intent of those involved, we can only see the situation through the lenses we begin to wear based on experience, observation, values and beliefs.

Learning to live effectively comes with responsibility and so much more than a simple "sorry" and (thus far) empty promises of better to come. Band-aid fixes and post script-after-post script (P.S.) only serve to keep others in the toxic, dangerous love of which they have been warned. They are not the answers that will benefit the world and teach others what love is.

Bad reviews of a "P.S. I love you" might very well be a better indicator of reality and truth, than that a P.S. of "Sorry..." and told to believe "That's love."

(Author's note: Was it coincidence that the Captcha was "asking questions" for this piece? )

Coral Levang © 2015 All rights reserved.

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Sources:

Dixit, Arvind (March 7, 2015). That's love. Retrieved from http://www.bubblews.com/news/9885420-that039s-love


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Comments

nbaquero wrote on March 9, 2015, 1:28 PM

CoralLevang Unfortunately that post and well as many others from him are just not addressing the points that need to be addressed, as a CEO this person should be upfront and provide clear and honest information. Perhaps he should step down and and let more capable people manage the business, that way he could spend more time writing. Thanks for sharing your view on this.

CoralLevang wrote on March 9, 2015, 2:14 PM

nbaquero I agree with you wholeheartedly. And as long as there are people who continue to follow in almost cult-like fashion, self-aggrandizement from those with titles will continue to be in fashion.

BarbRad wrote on March 9, 2015, 2:27 PM

Frankly, I don't think he's much of a writer, either. He's more what my mother-in-law would have called a dreamer.

BarbRad wrote on March 9, 2015, 2:30 PM

I haven't had time to go back to Bubblews except to comment on posts I see links for on tsu from my friends. Thanks for the update. It seems everytime I checked one of the CEO's epistles hoping for information, all I see is hype. He is a master of using words to hide information I want to know.

CoralLevang wrote on March 9, 2015, 2:32 PM

I never thought Johnny Cash was much of a singer. Still, people loved his singing. It just goes to show that people have their own opinions. Unfortunately, those who are critics are met more often now at Bubblews with banning for being in violation of the TOU. I think that I, if banned, would fall under the "being unfair" category. emoticon :winking:

CoralLevang wrote on March 9, 2015, 2:33 PM

Between he and Bear, I am amazed that they haven't started a Mutual Admiration Society.

alexdg1 wrote on March 9, 2015, 2:37 PM

I don't read Arvind's posts any more. His musings remind me of Shakespeare's line from Macbeth: "It is a tale told by an idiot/Full of sound and fury/Signifying nothing."

CoralLevang wrote on March 9, 2015, 2:45 PM

I suppose reading his posts is my folly. That might make me as much an idiot? emoticon :winking:

PriscillaKing wrote on March 9, 2015, 3:15 PM

If U.S. Bubblers who've been burned by Bubblews care to share their experiences with (1) the FTC and (2) me at my Blogspot, we may just possibly be able to teach Arvind a badly needed lesson...maybe even help our colleagues overseas collect what they've earned. I don't have much faith in electronic complaint forms that refer people to kid-friendly web pages about avoiding emotional drama, but do have faith that my Congressman is tracking this as part of the larger issue it really is. Web sites that promise payment need to be held to their contracts. There hasn't been a federal law about this. There should be one.

valmnz wrote on March 9, 2015, 3:22 PM

I do still continue at Bubblews, because of a few of the people I like to have contact with there. I chose not to read Arvind's latest post. I'm also now concerned at the impact the latest announcements here will have on those of us who do not live in the US.

alexdg1 wrote on March 9, 2015, 3:26 PM

Nah. Just a curious reader, I guess.

inertia4 wrote on March 9, 2015, 3:56 PM

CoralLevang I read that post and my first thought was, why is he writing about love? What does this have to do with Bubblews at all? Then I read the P.S. at the end. I can see that it might be considered cult like on some ways. But I still go there and still write there as well as here. Although it has been almost a week now since I posted anywhere. I have not been feeling good. I will remain a member there and see where it leads. The mains reason I stay is curiosity. I need to know what happens next. I am a loyalist by nature I guess. That's why I am a major Apple fan. I love their products and the company. And I follow them with each new innovation. But to me, love is love, a website is just a website. Love to me has nothing to do with it. Loyalty and dedication do however. That's my take on it.

CoralLevang wrote on March 9, 2015, 4:04 PM

As I understand from a handful of people who have gone to the Better Business Bureau (BBB), they are receiving their monies owed. Is it correct that once a complaint has been resolved, it is taken off the record? In these cases, they are no longer showing as problems.

I agree about the laws. Getting the word out about the help that is there is important. Unfortunately, too many fear retaliation by being banned.
Staying in contact with people who are at other sites seems also to be discouraged when there is no way to communicate with fellow writers outside of commenting publicly, and an inability to share email privately.
Looking forward to watching for this. You know I will pass info along.

Leweee is one who might be interested I've heard recently

CoralLevang wrote on March 9, 2015, 4:07 PM

I think that elitecodex and Maelou are doing what is right in that they are keeping people apprised of the situation. Of course, there is impact all around. I think that one of the things I like the best here is that it really is not about money, but about the connection to people. How any site can stay up and running is beyond me. I am here because of the people I care about and what to stay involved with. I am not active elsewhere because of leadership or lack of, as the case might be.

CoralLevang wrote on March 9, 2015, 4:10 PM

I often wonder why he writes what he does. And I still go there and write one every few weeks. I am still there, as well, but have to say that it is not out of loyalty but curiosity.

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nbaquero wrote on March 9, 2015, 4:31 PM

CoralLevang In contrast, things here (at PersonaPaper) are handled in a much donw-to-earth way. Good and bad news are shared inmmediately and openly by MaeLou and elitecodex , I really value that and I think most of us do as well.

CoralLevang wrote on March 9, 2015, 4:36 PM

nbaquero I agree. I know that decisions made are never easy, and it causes some concern for some. I value what they do here tremendously, as is evidenced by my support of them.

Leweee wrote on March 10, 2015, 3:05 AM

The most amazing thing about &Arvind 's post mentioned here is the 'comments'. It is amazing to read the brainless remarks like "amazing writing, can't wait to read your ebook", or " Your philosophy gives me so happiness." I agree with your choice of the word "cult" describing them.
There has been no 'love' ever shown from him. He shows over and over he does not care. He shows over and over how much he thinks of himself and his legacy before anything or anyone else. His place in the "bigger picture" will more than likely be on a "Wanted" poster.
And you are also right that I... Leweee (BubbLewis) would very much like to contact those Persona Paper People who are trying or have tried some official (legal) means of forcing them to pay us the money they legally owe us. Anyone with ideas for me could comment on my Bio page, until I get confirmed and can write my own articles. Thank you Coral for all your help

CoralLevang wrote on March 10, 2015, 4:37 AM

I am certainly not intending to malign him, and I hope that I am wrong about him.

I will always continue to encourage those who feel they are wronged to seek out and research ways to resolve the situations. If you see comments from people who are taking steps, then make sure you reach out to learn more. I hope you will look into the process through BBB as a possible first step.

inertia4 wrote on March 10, 2015, 8:21 AM

CoralLevang I don't know why he writes what he writes either. But maybe there is some truth to what he is saying. However, I wonder why Jason does not post anything anymore. He used to. I cannot help being loyal. But I am also curious.