Opinion: It Is in the Post Script
Some may remember the movie, P.S. I Love You , from nearly a decade ago based on a novel by the same name. It received horrible reviews, and I never cared much for Hilary Swank.
The story was based on a couple, the husband dying rather suddenly from a brain tumor. He has just enough time to make sure that he orchestrates some events where his intention is to get his wife to move forward after he is gone. Each is accompanied with a letter, which ends with "P.S. I love you."
Today, on my weekly visit to Bubblews, I am reminded of this story as the prominent male figure (CEO) writes a letter to his beloved (followers). To those who continue their undying allegiance, he shares (once again) his "love rhetoric" and teaching the meaning of life.
Theoretically, much of what he writes has value and truth. Some things even seem wise beyond years. He states this about love:
"Love causes people to stay in harmful relationships because they become so attached to someone or something, that they end up neglecting their self in favor of the person or thing that they do love. Love is dangerous when approached this way. Anything that deviates you from being who you are is very dangerous."
As the parable he to speak to his readers of judgement, self-worth, and love builds, he offers his answer in his final paragraph: Balance, relevance, and more love.
There is a P.S. added that speaks of delay, promise, and dedication, and a teaser about a release of a full-length eBook. It ends with " Sorry for the wait."
Life does, indeed, give us lessons in love, balance, self-worth, and whatever else we need to learn. Some of those lessons will be rather painful, as we are not always willing to see the bigger picture.
Of course, two people will present a philosophical argument using similar words to support their stances, each adept at making great points. Some would call that "spin." Is that spin manipulation? I would say that it is.
So, the question becomes: Is manipulation, in and of itself, bad?
I would say, "No." What one must consider is intent. And as one considers the intent of those involved, we can only see the situation through the lenses we begin to wear based on experience, observation, values and beliefs.
Learning to live effectively comes with responsibility and so much more than a simple "sorry" and (thus far) empty promises of better to come. Band-aid fixes and post script-after-post script (P.S.) only serve to keep others in the toxic, dangerous love of which they have been warned. They are not the answers that will benefit the world and teach others what love is.
Bad reviews of a "P.S. I love you" might very well be a better indicator of reality and truth, than that a P.S. of "Sorry..." and told to believe "That's love."
(Author's note: Was it coincidence that the Captcha was "asking questions" for this piece? )
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Dixit, Arvind (March 7, 2015). That's love. Retrieved from http://www.bubblews.com/news/9885420-that039s-love
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