By in Random

Observing Behavior of People and Other Animals

This morning I stopped in to read at another site. I do so with the intent of checking out what people I miss (and wish would join us here) have to say. I also must admit I look for posts from the staff.

I have often felt there has been a great divide among the values held by the ownership/staff and writers, as evidenced by how they: Handle business; deal with conflict; choose their associations; explain (away) their issues, rather than being accountable; "ignore-it-and-no-one-will-notice"; and communicate, in general.

I recognize that we must all learn from mistakes. But I also believe there must be a genuine willingness to do so.

I do not believe that is the case with this staff/"leadership." I have noticed clear indicators that there is an "us vs. them" mentality when it comes to certain staff members.

Some are blatantly snarky. Today, I have one more bit of evidence that clearly shows the lack of maturity shown by a self-proclaimed leader.

"oh boohoo. If you don't like my post, well then don't read my post." [sic]

I would not have been shocked had there been a "neener, neener" tag at the end. This type of response is sophomoric, at best.

Translation: "If you do not like me then don't read me. But if you don't agree with me and write something to the contrary, then I will just delete you and not play with you any more." (I did not see the original comment, so I cannot speak to it.)

"When you call upon a Thoroughbred, he gives you all the speed, strength of heart and sinew in him. When you call on a jackass, he kicks." ~ Patricia Neal

My experience with observing this kind of behavior: If I did not know any better, this would be what we find in middle school, among the 12-year-old girls.

With this coming from a male Millennial, I have to admit that I was surprised. It should not, however, surprise me. I have seen this type of behavior/response from this same person several times over the last six months, even directed at me.

There was further evidence of the lack of maturity and business acumen with comments by this particular person, claiming to have been around other sites (skulking), which he suggested were not as impressive as the new-and-exciting changes.

Those who may have degrees in Business or in Marketing, do they still teach that if your company's product is as good as you say it is, then there is no need to compare yourself to others using the "our-product-is-better-than-yours" strategy? It really is not necessary, in my experience.

Is it important to know what your competition offers? Of course. But is it ever a good idea to tear another product down to make yourselves look good?

It also saddens me, as I recognize this same mentality from many others I encounter in the workshops I facilitate. It makes me wonder if these will be the leaders that "will take over this world." If so, hold on to your pants, and prepare to take it in the shorts.

I can only trust that those who are truly leaders will step up to the plate, as they have done for centuries. They will be the ones to make things better. They will be willing to jump in the muck and mire, make mistakes, and take ownership for the creation of the mess. They will also have the experience of cleaning up after the jackasses who made the mess and then bailed out.

They will also be the ones who may have a chance to knock some sense into the snot-nosed, self-important dolts with fancy titles doled out by others who are equally as foolish to think that degrees and titles make the man or woman.

I hope I am around to witness some of it.

© 2015 Coral Levang

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UK_Writer wrote on February 28, 2015, 2:06 PM

If it's "B", the site was always an utter mess and going nowhere, with too many cr4p posts written in English so poor they couldn't even spell a 3 word title correctly ... the USP, and probably ONLY selling point, was the rate of income. Once they removed that it left nothing of value to feel connected to. Also, the way they ran things it made one feeling scammed, not a good feeling.

alexdg1 wrote on February 28, 2015, 2:16 PM

Oh, based on what Coral writes here, it's obvious which site she's describing and who the snot-nosed, uncouth leader is. I am still posting there, if only to see how long it takes me to get my last $50 redemption.

Kasman wrote on February 28, 2015, 3:00 PM

Don't hold your breath! The jackass mentality is rife in public life and in the business world and the anonymity of the internet can magnify this trait to obscene proportions. Personally, I would do as they suggest - avoid their negativity and interact with those who you may not agree with but who at least have reasoned opinions and cogent arguments.

GemstonePink wrote on February 28, 2015, 4:43 PM

I also go to the "B" site to see if there are positive updates. Your information provided here is to be expected from the young narcissists who run it. I taught middle school, and yes, those powers that be are just like, perhaps worse than, middle school girls. Jeeezzzzzzz!

wolfgirl569 wrote on February 28, 2015, 4:53 PM

They know that they are going under but dont know when to admit that they maybe need some help

nbaquero wrote on February 28, 2015, 5:27 PM

CoralLevang Yeah, I saw the post you are referring to. That site has nothing to offer and people that have chosen to remain active are only losing their time and efforts, sadly.

CoralLevang wrote on February 28, 2015, 5:29 PM

Actually, you might be surprised as to who it might be.

CoralLevang wrote on February 28, 2015, 5:46 PM

It was all I could do NOT to put up this piece on the site and use a picture of a bear with a crazy look on its face. But I could not find a picture like that.

I'm learning how to be snarky...okay, snarkier. And in that case, I would need to use a graphic of a horse's ass. I don't need to call THAT much attention to myself, nbaquero !! LOL

Last Edited: February 28, 2015, 5:47 PM

CoralLevang wrote on February 28, 2015, 5:50 PM

You will not see my face turning blue! emoticon :winking: You are so correct about the jackass mentality. Let me add one to the mix--the military system. It's all life, and culture of whatever system/family/company, etc. that we may find ourselves ...
And I don't interact much over there anymore, but every once in a while, I have to see what's going on. Makes my heart start to pump again. emoticon :grin:

alexdg1 wrote on February 28, 2015, 6:36 PM

Hmm. Intriguing.

cheri wrote on February 28, 2015, 9:11 PM

This is a sickening truth. There are really a lot of people who only accept good criticism or feedback.

CoralLevang wrote on February 28, 2015, 9:52 PM

I find that one, in particular, is the biggest of the culprits. Especially, in the snark department.

CoralLevang wrote on February 28, 2015, 9:54 PM

I think that this is what we have encouraged in our society today...around the world. And then if something is said in disagreement, lawsuits are threatened.