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Ok so here is the current situation in my life and I was wondering if anyone could offer up advice. I am in school for 2.5 more months and my wife works in my local town. When I am at school she lives with her parents and then when I come home for holidays we stay at my parent's. Once school ends the plan would be to move us back in with our parents and save up some money to afford to move out on our own (as we both have quite a debt load.) But the issue is my house has many pets and fleas are biting us. This is very annoying to my wife and she complains often. I get bit too and I dont complain about them so I brush off her complaints. This upsets my wife a great deal and it makes her want us to move in with her parents. But in her house she has a sister that I simply cannot tolerate and refuse to subject myself to her nasty environment. She has a bad attitude and belittles everyone, she is just a very unpleasant person and it would make me miserable to live with her. The other option would be starting up our life together on our own but of course than financial stress would be the thing we want to avoid and with both of our debts we would have to pay the minimum just to live and we wouldn't be able to save a downpayment for a house probably for a long while.

So from an outsider's perspective what seems to be the best solution? Is ownership of a house what we should desire in life? Is saving money important? Is paying off debt important? or is my relationship to my wife what should trump everything?

I feel that in my life I have made the least worst decision - I want to avoid going on like this and I want to feel like I have made the right decision. And I would definitely love to feel in control of my own life again and not live in fear of potential negative outcomes and worry about how I will react to what life throws at me! Oh this life is a tough one and I hope I can continue to be strong.

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bestwriter wrote on February 25, 2015, 11:21 PM

If those pets are kept clean there will be no flies. This is a flimsy reason not to stay with your parents specially since you have no money to move out.

HappyLady wrote on February 25, 2015, 11:36 PM

I would not live where I was getting bitten by fleas and if your parents do not deal with them it will get worse. I do not understand why that cannot be done. I personally would move out and do the best you can unless the house is f umigated.

ViperGirl85 wrote on February 26, 2015, 10:39 PM

I would say to just get rid of the fleas, which may be difficult but is possible, and then go with your original plan. I couldn't live with someone who was constantly belittling others. Or well, I couldn't live with someone like that and be expected to keep my mouth shut. :-x