When things go wrong with people and relationships I find it very easy to distance myself for a short while. I can take stock of what has happened, what went wrong and what needs to change.
For me it is then either down to me, the other person or both of us to take action on these things - and any that they have for me too.
However I do find myself in a vicious cycle in the past and currently. This circle is causing me to repeat myself, repeat my actions with the crazy notion that the outcome will be different. I don't know why it would be, if my behaviours, how I react and even more so other peoples are the same why would I expect the result to be different.
The only way that I can expect something different is to change my behaviours, after all I can't change other people.