Lightning Bolt Moments
Sometimes, whether I am writing or talking , I act as a lightning bolt to bring about change. A friend and colleague once said, "Coral, you are not a light-bulb of inspiration. You are a lightning bolt of instigation!"
I was a little bit offended and hurt, because it reminded me of the stabbing feeling I experienced when my mother would ask, "Why must you be a 'shit-disturber'? Stop being such an instigator and you won't have people mad at you!"
When my friend said that to me, she told me that my being a lightning bolt was a good thing. I looked up the definition verb "to instigate" at dictionary.com to get a new perspective. It gave me two definitions: 1.) to cause by incitement; foment (as to instigate a quarrel); and 2.) to urge, provoke, or incite to some action or course (as to instigate the people to revolt).
So, for the first time in my life, I honed in on what it is I (intend to) do as an instigator: I urge people to take and action. Sometimes, I may have to "poke-the-sleeping-bear" and deal with the growls and angry swipes of the paw.
So, the question becomes, am I looking to help others or bring out the bear in others? Either way, I must be willing to encounter the response/result. And, if I encounter the bear, do I retreat or do I stand for what I believe in, which is urging a course of action?
Six years ago, I declared my mission and purpose in life as: "To help others see beyond the challenges they face." As was pointed out by my friend, my style is that of a lightning bolt. It is not something I really can change, as my personality seems to drive it. And I have been dealing with the response (consequence) of that for nearly 60 years.
Have I tried to be different? Change my personality? Yes, I have, but each time, I still find myself in the same place. When I try to alter WHO I am, I am not being genuine.
Might I have to adapt my word choices to fit the appropriateness of the situation? Of course! I have to understand the audience.
However, as with any audience, whether one person or thousands, there will always be people who perceive whatever I say, or whatever characteristic they see in me from their own lens of beliefs, experience, values and personality. I have absolutely no control over that. Some will always choose to see me as a "shit-disturber," instead of an "agent of change."
I would just prefer them to see me as someone who: Has a heart; is open to hear what others have to say; is passionate about what she has to say; will be direct and genuine in dealing with you; and will always trust that with new information or ideas, you will always make the decision that makes most sense to you.
And me, I now own who I am--a lightning bolt of instigation.
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Image Credit » Author owned. Painting, "Hear Me Roar," artist Coral Levang