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Romance Alive and Well After 43 Years

It has been interesting reading a range of thoughts and opinions online re Valentines Day. Like many I do tend to think of it as overdone commercialism and feel that romance shouldn't be limited to only one day of the year. However, and there is a however here, although my husband and I have been married nearly 44 years, we still tend to get a little affected by this day of supposed love.

Let's face it, to have lasted this long, we have a pretty good relationship. Not all sugar and sweetness, but one based on honesty and love. And, we have been known to make small acknowledgements of Valentine's Day in the past. This morning, Friday 13th, my husband looked at me and asked, do you want me to do anything for Valentine's Day? That question in itself was enough, an acknowledgement of the fact that we don't really need to do anything special and really would rather spend the money in other ways.

So, for those of you who are in doubt, yes, acknowledge Valentine's Day, even if just verbally. If the love of your life is a true one, that will be all that it needs.

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rosepetal wrote on February 12, 2015, 11:41 PM

Hubby and I acknowledge the day. Sometimes we will just go out to dinner. Most importantly, it is just being there that is most important.

valmnz wrote on February 12, 2015, 11:53 PM

I agree. It is nice to do something special, even if just in a small way.

bestwriter wrote on February 13, 2015, 12:07 AM

It is not just the Valentine's day I am opposed to other days as well - fathers' day, mothers' day, teachers' day, seniors' day........ We need care for each other all days of our life.

valmnz wrote on February 13, 2015, 12:13 AM

I agree. However, it doesn't hurt to acknowledge over and above one day a year. What I object to is spending money to do so.

valmnz wrote on February 13, 2015, 12:15 AM

And my goodness, teachers day - oh how i would have loved to be fussed over more than normal one day a year emoticon :smile:

bestwriter wrote on February 13, 2015, 1:47 AM

When the feelings are dead and everyone displays just because.... I find it artificial.

bestwriter wrote on February 13, 2015, 1:49 AM

Knowing how stressed teachers are may be I could make an exception there (lol)

valmnz wrote on February 13, 2015, 2:02 AM

True but those who have lasted the distance can smile at the chance to add even more to the magic.

Dawnwriter wrote on February 13, 2015, 4:01 AM

Congratulations. My parents will also be celebrating their 44th wedding anniversary soon. As you said, it is not easy sailing all the way but respect, trust and certain compromises go a long way in keeping marriages stable. Enjoy your Valentine's Day though I share bestwriter 's opinion regarding celebrating these days. (teacher's Day being an exception)

zabelle51 wrote on February 13, 2015, 9:11 AM

I usually don't even notice it, I guess neither of us is romantic is the classical sense. lol :)

rebelann1949 wrote on February 13, 2015, 10:44 AM

It's a shame that relationships like yours are rare, so many give up even after raising their kids, its disheartening. As for valentines day I have never bothered with it but then neither did my parents, they acknowledged each other on their anniversary which dad never forgot and to me that is much more important.

valmnz wrote on February 13, 2015, 1:29 PM

Like I say, we don't celebrate, but acknowledge

WordChazer wrote on February 13, 2015, 1:47 PM

We have decided no cards, no meal deal this year. We have a bottle of cava chilling for tomorrow, and a lovely joint with a selection of food which we have chosen between us. I guess it's how you shake down after some time together - it's the being together every day that's the important thing, not giving into the commercialism.

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OnlyErin6 wrote on February 13, 2015, 4:23 PM

Congrats to you and your husband. Valentine's day isn't really about love in the romantic sense if you've read the story... I don't think there's anything wrong with giving in to commercialism a bit though. Holidays exist because people think that holidays are fun. Shaking things up a bit with some pre-fabricated romance isn't necessary, but it isn't any different than other things that people do for entertainment. It isn't important, but if you like it, why not go for it? It's like Halloween... it gives you a chance to do things you might not be brave enough to do on another day of the year. Peer pressure at its finest.

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cheri wrote on February 15, 2015, 12:47 AM

I believe that what you have said was all true. I am only married for 15 years and compared to you, I still have a lot more to learn and do.

DarkSinistar wrote on February 17, 2015, 12:53 AM

I never really understood Valentine's Day as a holiday because it does seem that every day should be special with the one you love.