How Would You Manage or Handle Emotional Abuse?
Physical abuse can be seen and felt. We can go to the doctor or hospital to get cured. We can put ointment , salve, and even take medicines to help cure the pain and even lessen the pain. The technology of medicine and drugs (medications).
What about emotional abuse ? That can't be seen by others or even you. But only you can feel it. Emotional abuse for me is when someone or more than one are telling you things or saying things about you that hurts. It makes you sad and most of the time you cry and you get this deep ache in you heart that sometimes you can feel it breaking. Some say that a person has died of a broken heart and it can be true. When the heart hurts the muscles and the veins hurt too, they can clog up refuse to pump oxygen or just even stop working. What they say can be true or not.
So how do you handle it? People tell you to pray, talk with someone, even a psychologist . They can help you understand and to get over the emotions . Not really get over them but be able to handle it. Talking to someone can help ease the burden or the heaviness in your hearts. But sometimes it can just be too much to handle and some people recourse to suicide . It hard if they keep badgering you and telling you that you are worthless, not a good mother/father/sister/brother, not at good person, not a good budgeter and worse not good at all.
Maybe that is why there are so many teen-age suicides and middle age suicides. These are the ages when everything is uncertain, too young or too old.
Sometimes talking about it helps and also writing about it. It's up to you to know where you stand and how you can manage the emotional abuse before becoming just a number or a statistic in the list.
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Comments
Madcanman wrote on February 6, 2015, 6:04 AM
I grew up under such conditions (which more than likely set the stage for my lifelong self confidence issues), and even regularly witnessed our mother suffering at the hands of our father, who is now a sickly old man. But guess what- after 40-something years she remarried him! Go figure...
Elren wrote on February 6, 2015, 6:34 AM
Luckily, I have a high tolerance against those kind of abuses. But when I snap, I SNAP!
AdGoggleKo wrote on February 6, 2015, 7:00 AM
My dad's loud mouth, my nephews attitudes etc are killing me so I just go to the beach alone with my smartphone and keep myself busy reading reading reading, following great people online, etc. :)
paperdaisyflower7 wrote on February 6, 2015, 7:40 AM
wow don't know what to say about that
paperdaisyflower7 wrote on February 6, 2015, 7:41 AM
I have a high tolerance for physical pain but maybe too the emotional ones because I am still here waiting to snap
paperdaisyflower7 wrote on February 6, 2015, 7:42 AM
I do try to at times and write them down my feelings
CoralLevang wrote on February 6, 2015, 12:50 PM
Having grown up in an extremely dysfunctional setting, though others rarely knew it, I learned patterns of behavior (giving and receiving) that did nothing more than keep the legacy going, or shut down completely. Neither way is balanced and healthy. Thankfully, I chose to put a stop or to change those "lifelong self confidence issues" mentioned by Madcanman . It is difficult and I fall back into the old traps from time to time. I went through some long-term focused therapy to shake things up for me, so I could start back on a path of MY choosing.
The hardest thing for me to do now is to include deeper relationships in my life. I tend to keep others "at bay" because I do not really know well how to accept kindness. But even so, I am learning how to be better at that. By accepting kindness, I am learning to change what I might typically expect from my old views. It is only through cognitive decisions and critical thinking skills that I have been able to do so...and learning how to trust others (coach/counselor/new friends that are healthier).
OnlyErin6 wrote on February 6, 2015, 9:48 PM
I have a hard time understanding how others handle/don't handle it sometimes. If I feel that someone is being emotionally abusive, I just leave or shut them out. My father was emotionally abusive indirectly by being a self-centered alcoholic, but I stopped living with my parents and almost completely stopped talking to him by the time I was 16. Life is to short to put up with people who treat you like trash unless you have absolutely no other choice.
Madcanman wrote on February 7, 2015, 1:08 AM
I, too, have since spent many years trying to refocus and live my life the way I want to with the woman I love and the best I can (not like my father) with my five children and 3 1/2 grandchildren.
Oops, this reply was meant for CoralLevang. Thank you, PP admin for adding the comment edit button!
Madcanman wrote on February 7, 2015, 1:09 AM
Good for you, OnlyErin6. Excellent comment, and an especially great last sentence.
seren3 wrote on February 7, 2015, 10:19 AM
It is awful to be in a situation where your life or job depends on someone who is abusive emotionally/verbally. Mostly you just have to find a way to get away from such people.