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"How to save a relationship in 45 minutes" (or just get a good laugh)

About a week ago, I stumbled onto this article ( describing research that claims a set of questions can help you and your partner "save your relationship." As a counselor, I can't deny that communication, especially in-depth discussions, can strengthen your bond as a couple. Still, I was skeptical.

I made my husband run through the whole 45-minute set with me. Since we're already close, we didn't learn much new about each other. In fact, we could easily guess the other person's answer to most of the questions.

This seems like a cool exercise for new couples, or more established couples who have drifted apart. If you're already close, it can still be fun, though. By the "ask for advice questions, my husband and I were getting juvenile-silly, but a shared laugh is never time wasted.


Image Credit » Mine, Valentine from my husband.

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Kasman wrote on February 16, 2015, 4:44 PM

There's something wrong with your article link - I can't get it to work. You are right; communication is the secret to a close relationship.

MsBiz wrote on February 16, 2015, 5:22 PM

Oops, thanks for letting me know about the link; it won't embed for some reason. You're right about the key point, though! Communication is key.

Ruby3881 wrote on February 16, 2015, 6:33 PM

I figure if people need a more structured environment for talking to their partners, this would be a useful tool. I highly doubt it would salvage a relationship that was on the rocks, though. Like you, I think it would be most helpful for a new couple or one in which the partners had a certain distance between them.

allen0187 wrote on February 16, 2015, 9:10 PM

Thanks for sharing the article. I would definitely try this one out. Only problem is, I don't have that special someone to ask the questions. LOL!

Agree, that communication is one of the keys to a fulfilling relationship.

Hollyhocks100 wrote on February 17, 2015, 6:37 AM

Getting silly was something my late husband and I never grew out of, neither did we stop holding hands, and I couldnĀ“t stand by his side, say for instance in queue for more than 5 minutes without giving him a kiss. I wish more couples had what we had.

crowntower wrote on February 17, 2015, 12:23 PM

That was cool how you enjoy it. And I agree with the communication part it is really very basic and important and must not be neglected. I think in 45 minutes... we must all have a great relationship to God so the 45 minutes will be possible... knowing we know how to set things in God's way. the second is communicating in each other not over the phone with some close friends. I think the most common problem of a couples now a days is -- instead of leaning to one another they keep leaning to their friends, instead of talking to their spouses they keep talking to their friends. Friends is important, but what is going on inside the family must be settled by the family so things don't get worse. And always be secured in God's presence and always let God be the center of every relationship.

nbaquero wrote on February 19, 2015, 12:03 PM

Msbiz Absolutely Communication is one of the most important factors in any relationship (personal, professional, etc), but it is just one aspect of a relationship. Nothing can be achieved if in spite of communicating well a couple does share other important aspects such as trust, commitment, etc.
PS.I see the link is working now, so I am going to check the questionnaire.

MsBiz wrote on February 19, 2015, 12:46 PM

I just saw your comment and agree completely. When we bring third parties into our marriages, it's a recipe for disaster. I also see another mistake as keeping God out of marriage. Before you even get to talking, nothing brings you as close as praying as a couple.

MsBiz wrote on February 19, 2015, 12:51 PM

It's worth checking out! Some of the questions are shallow, but others can be great conversation starters! Let me know what you think of the questions.

nbaquero wrote on February 19, 2015, 1:52 PM

Yes, MsBiz just bookmarked the page where the actual questions are! Will let you know soon.