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First Impressions Are Not Always Valid!

First impressions can be very deceiving. Although many of us can make a judgement call in a matter or moments and usually are correct in our perceptions there are times that we are way off the track. Now I am writing this from my Western mind and not my Thailand one where a person is judged mostly from his "heart".

When I meet a fellow expat or tourist, I am immediately drawn to several things, the clothes the person is wearing, the external beauty, how he or she is behaving in a foreign country, vocal attributions and mostly the external things that I can discern. By using this collection of somewhat false evaluation factors I have made some "friends" that I soon try to dissolve and I am sure that I have let some really great people go who could have greatly enriched my life.

At the moment, my best friend is a big man, around 6' 5", more than a few pounds overweight and looks like he could have been a real threat to anyone he did not like. We met while having a drink at a club and I was drawn to him because he had a great sense of humor that immediately captured my interest. I walked over to him and introduced myself (being shy is not exactly my style) and before long we were laughing our butts off. It was as if I met my mental clone. Now we are walking together every morning for exercise albeit afterwards the breakfast we eat usually adds to any calories we may have lost.

So what is this all about? If I had used my first impression and dismissed this person by my first impressions I would have lost out on meeting a great friend. So perhaps it is time for a lot of us to go beyond the first impressions and try to look internally at a person before we make any decisions.

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MommyCharm wrote on January 24, 2015, 11:42 PM

Definitely true. I suddenly remember my former boss, he looks scary since he stand at 6'2" and he's beefy and has this mean look on his face all the time. We all kept distance from him but eventually we found out that he's cool and a very efficient manager too! Like the saying goes "Don't judge the book by it's cover'.

scheng1 wrote on January 24, 2015, 11:56 PM

Those who work in a job with more human contacts have better instinct about humans. The rest of us just have to learn.

glade wrote on January 25, 2015, 1:42 AM

looks can be deceiving and first impression can sometimes makes us miss on the great things about a person

richnonai wrote on January 25, 2015, 1:43 AM

Yes, not always does a book cover show the real contents!

richnonai wrote on January 25, 2015, 1:44 AM

Yes, many times when I hired people I was surprised that they were actually more qualified than I thought!

richnonai wrote on January 25, 2015, 1:44 AM

Unfortunately, it can happen too many times in our life!

bestwriter wrote on January 25, 2015, 2:34 AM

If one has an opportunity to get to know those who we have met for the first time then it is a different story. But making an attempt to meet even though one would not be impressed with the first meet, that can have risks. But in your case it worked.

AdGoggleKo wrote on January 27, 2015, 5:17 AM

Now, I would like to know what was your first impression of me. emoticon :tongue:

richnonai wrote on January 28, 2015, 7:25 AM

I guess sometimes the risk is well worth it. But of course we do make some poor judgement as well!

richnonai wrote on January 28, 2015, 7:27 AM

OUCH! Where do I start? Lets see. A very smart young lady who is fun to associate with. OH, you mean first impression????? Ummmm. silly girl!

cheri wrote on March 1, 2015, 8:09 AM

This is true in some cases but when you are having a job interview make the best impression that you can give so you can get hired. :)