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Do You Have Poor Relations

Poor relations - This phrase can be used both literally and idiomatically, or allegorically.

Poor relations can be the financially poor relations overlooked or neglected by wealthier cousins, brothers or parents. The phrase may also refer to poor (limited or tense) communications between relations who rarely if ever talk to one another.

Many of us hope that if a wealthy relative dies they include us in the will, or that living relatives might share a lottery windfall with us. Man eager to embark on some business venture may hope for support from a wealthy family benefactor but the wealthier family members may regard the poorer relatives as little better than any other beggars.

There is something miserly about not giving a relative a share if you have millions in the bank, but it is also quite mercenary for poor relatives to expect a hand-out from a wealthier cousin, uncle, grand-father etc.

Money may be kept from poorer relatives due to poor relations, as in an ongoing family feud – someone who disrupted a family wedding or refused to go to a family funeral / christening, etc should not be surprised on not getting a cheque through the post when a windfall comes in.

Other motives may be down to miserly greed or a sense that the poor relation is poor through bad finance – is it worth giving quarter of a million dollars or pouds sterling to someone you expect to booze it away or gamble it away overnight?

I am a poor relation in not currently having any rich ones though if my sister won the lottery I know she wouldn’t offer me a penny.

Arthur Chappell

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msiduri wrote on January 5, 2015, 11:19 AM

Nah, I AM the poor relation. And since I'm the only one without children, I don't suppose any of my siblings, should they win a lottery, would be sharing it with me. Yet, if I were to win one, I'd be suddenly visited a lot. For the sake of their children, you know.

Damn, I'm cynical this morning.

Vivenda wrote on January 5, 2015, 11:21 AM

Our son and daughter have both been "poor relations" at various stages of development, but that's all part and parcel of being a parent. I'm sure they'll return the compliment if ever we are in need and they are not!

LadyDuck wrote on January 5, 2015, 11:23 AM

I know that if a relative would win the lottery I will not see a penny. I think I am not a poor relation.

WordChazer wrote on January 5, 2015, 2:57 PM

Yep. I have both. Poor relations with my in laws (but I didn't marry them, I married my husband, who is a human being) and poor relations who are impecunious and think that my family is wealthy. Personally, I think not... maybe wealthy according to how my in laws see wealth but not wealthy enough to be giving it away any time soon.

Kat- wrote on January 5, 2015, 5:19 PM

We have "poor relations" with my husbands family, mainly because of living in different states and them being busy. I don't expect anyone to share their windfall, as most relations have families of their own and I would think the children would come first, plus I don't think you should expect to be given things just because they are family.

maxeen wrote on January 5, 2015, 7:44 PM

I just wouldn't have the time to do anything with any windfalls off others ! I am too,too busy living.

BodieMor wrote on January 6, 2015, 8:55 PM

I'm always dreaming of becoming vastly rich and sharing with all my friends and relatives (making sure there is plenty left over for me and my immediate family! emoticon :winking:

bestwriter wrote on January 8, 2015, 7:44 AM

There was a time when there was disparity between us - some were well off and some had just enough and some needed assistance. But today everyone is doing well and this has kept us a part. Helping each other kept us together.