Phone Call From the Special Ed Teacher
If you have a special needs kid you've probably had enough calls from school to know why I always hold my breath when I see the school showing up in my call display. Calls to come in and bring home a sick or injured child. Calls to come get a child who is having a tantrum. Calls to notify you of your child's latest transgression. Calls to tell you an inappropriate behaviour requires a meeting and intervention.
I dread those calls!
The good thing is, some teachers go beyond calling to dump trouble in a parent's lap. Some teachers actually call to collaborate or to tell the parent their child is doing well. Yes, I know it's hard to believe! But honestly, this has happened to me
Since moving to British Columbia my autistic son has been in a wonderful self-contained special education classroom. And his teacher is the best!
Mr. R. makes personal visits to students' homes when they are away for a long while due to injury. Mr. R. drives students home if their ride doesn't show or they miss the bus. Mr. R. teases kids playfully, instead of nagging them or using threats to get them to work.
Mr. R. also calls home to ask for advice, instead of asking parents to come get their kids if something isn't quite right.
One day Mr. R. called because the Bug was having a bit of a tummy ache, but he really wanted to stay in school because he has two favourite classes later that day.
Mr. R. told me all the details and said he was concerned how the Bug might react if sent home. (Yes, I know it's odd for a teacher to think beyond getting a sick kid off his own hands!) Then he asked what I thought we should do. We settled on giving the Bug a cup of tea and a little time to figure out how he felt, because we knew how much these classes mean to him.
Other days Mr. R has called to ask about problem behaviours. But he calls to tell me how he dealt with them, and then he asks if I think he did the right thing. It's not a “drop everything now and come get your unruly child” kind of call. He just wants to know if there's anything he hasn't thought to do, or if we would rather he dealt with a situation differently.
If you've had enough of the other kind of call, you know how much this simple gesture can mean to a special needs parent.
To be asked, rather than told. To have a teacher put my wishes first. To know the teacher will always contact me if he thinks my boy might be needing a little extra help. These things are more precious than gold!
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