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Everybody's Normal is Different

Everybody's Normal is Different.

So why do I sometimes find it easier to talk to people who are divorced or remarried than to others who have been for years? I'm married, I should be able to talk to the married couples with more ease than the ones, technically.

Apparently not, as the once divorced and now single or remarried couples have often been so much more than the ones who are still married. It's almost as if the normal of the divorced couples is closer to the normal that I know than the normal of the married ones.

Very odd.

Maybe it's the respective couples' , who knows? It can't be the divorced and separated couples' age, because some are younger and others older. Some have young children, others have adult children. Yet the ease of fitting in, of enjoying their company and of being accepted and not judged is a big difference from those married couples, with and without children.

It just has to be that everyone's normal is different. And some people find that more difficult to accept than others. One person's includes a boxer dog and no children, hence the photo.

What do you think?

Photo by Shardy at Pixabay:

Image Credit » Boxer dog by Shardy at pixabay

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momathome wrote on December 27, 2014, 3:31 PM

I think that is completely true, we are all different and some people have a lot of trouble accepting others who do not fit into their "mold" of what is normal. If only everyone could just be more accepting of others differences can you imagine how wonderful the world would be?

AliCanary wrote on December 27, 2014, 3:34 PM

My normal is more like that of a single person: Even though I've been married for years, my husband doesn't like to socialize, so the only other married couple we EVER hang out with is y sister and her husband. Basically The Hubster stays home and I socialize with my friends, who are mainly single.

BeadDoodler wrote on December 27, 2014, 4:14 PM

I'm no longer sure what normal is. All I can say is that normal is an individual thing and I and all my children seem to be considered a little "weird" by the great majority of people, therefore our circle of friends don't seem to fit into the "normal" range of the general population.

AngelSharum wrote on December 27, 2014, 4:54 PM

I've never really thought about who I talk more to, married people or not. We've been married for 24 years and have a 23 year old son. I don't know many people my age with children as old as mine, but otherwise I don't know many differences in who I talk with.

celticeagle wrote on December 28, 2014, 12:30 PM

Having children does raise the bar when divorce is in the picture. Maybe people who are still married just are settling and the divorced or remarried are not. So they would have more to say and more opinions where the settlers don't cause they are just settling with whatever they have. If you see what I mean.

Kasman wrote on December 28, 2014, 5:41 PM

Normal is what's normal for you. Everyone is different so everyone will find different solutions to the situations they face in their life.

Ruby3881 wrote on December 28, 2014, 11:14 PM

It's an interesting observation, even if you can't figure out why!

SLGarcia wrote on December 31, 2014, 11:04 AM

Fascinating observation. I was divorced after my children were grown and have been single for many years now. I have a variety of friendships, both married couples and singles. I find that the married couples I have friendships with are generally fairly independent individuals.

OnlyErin6 wrote on January 4, 2015, 12:49 PM

Maybe because the divorced people are more accessible because they aren't a "unit?" When you're with someone, you're conforming to rules you've created for yourselves in some way or another. When you're divorced you can do and say what you want without your subconscious being overshadowed by your "group."
I just made all that up, I have no idea.

arthurchappell wrote on January 5, 2015, 3:06 PM

I find it varies too much who I get on with love the boxer photo I used to own bridle boxer