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I haven't seen my son in almost 3 weeks.

As my title says, I have not seen my son in almost 3 weeks. He just got back today, a few hours ago and now sleeps beside my mom in his full sized bed. I sent him with my mom and my brother to visit with them in the Bronx when they came to visit on December 1st as we celebrated a postponed Thanksgiving together. Why did I send him so long? I homeschool and we don't really take off for weekends and they don't really get vacations except for when they visit my mom. This was pretty much his Thanksgiving and Christmas break all rolled into one. Olivia will be going for 3 weeks in January after her father's birthday.

We are planning to move back to Albany which is over 3 hours away from NYC. My mom once working again come spring, won't be able to come up and visit much and the kids are still too young to go to NYC unaccompanied. So, I made an executive decision as mom and permitted him to spend a long extended break with my mom and brother even though I missed him like crazy. Sometimes, parenting requires sacrifice as does being a good daughter. My mom is happy. My brother is happy and my son is happy. I call that a good decision and now my boy is home to spend Christmas with his father, his sister, my grandmother and I.

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scheng1 wrote on December 20, 2014, 7:36 AM

Good that you are willing to let your son gains some independence. The 3 weeks without you to fuss over him must be a great experience for him.

MaeLou wrote on December 20, 2014, 7:56 AM

3 Weeks sure is a long time! I'm glad he's back though!

acrogodess914 wrote on December 20, 2014, 8:45 AM

Oh certainly. I do want to encourage independence. He knows how to cook and do all kinds of things.

acrogodess914 wrote on December 20, 2014, 8:46 AM

So am I even though I know my mom takes care of him like he is her own.

SLGarcia wrote on December 20, 2014, 9:48 AM

That is such a great adventure for your son - and it will be for your daughter as well.

acrogodess914 wrote on December 20, 2014, 10:52 AM

The love spending time with their grandma and uncle. From birth til 2009, they pretty much grew up in my mother's home

paigea wrote on December 20, 2014, 12:40 PM

That must have been a wonderful break and holiday for him and for your mom and brother.

acrogodess914 wrote on December 20, 2014, 10:29 PM

Oh certainly. He had a fine ol' time.

Ruby3881 wrote on December 29, 2014, 12:53 AM

I really miss that part of homeschooling! I'm not up to it anymore, otherwise I think I'd go back to homeschooling the girls :)

maramadalina wrote on December 30, 2014, 2:05 PM

I'm very happy for you. It's very nice to spend Christmas with your family and your loved ones.

seren3 wrote on December 30, 2014, 5:51 PM

It sounds like he had a great break. I hope you did too! We always miss our kids though don't we?

acrogodess914 wrote on January 1, 2015, 6:22 PM

While grandma is home and especially since I will be going to a single parent household, homeschooling remains our best option. I simply won't be able to ensure that I would be able to attend their school meetings or that Alexander would receive the special services he may need.

acrogodess914 wrote on January 1, 2015, 6:23 PM

He came home just in time for Christmas, but my mom stayed here until Christmas eve and my brother came to visit too.

acrogodess914 wrote on January 1, 2015, 6:24 PM

Yes, I am always eager for them to come back home. I don't really get breaks because I care for grandma full time and my daughter was still home with me to help with errands and the pets.

heytoto wrote on January 4, 2015, 11:58 AM

Hi, Lissette! Nice to catch up with you here. BTW, how old are Alexander and Olivia? From the time my daughter was 12, she started flying back and forth between her Dad and me--Washington, D.C., India, Ghana, Spain....--so she would be gone for long stretches. It was hard for both of us because she would get so homesick being so far away.

acrogodess914 wrote on January 4, 2015, 2:44 PM

Alexander is 13 and Olivia is 11. Right now, as of yesterday - Olivia is away until the 14th of January.