How to keep a disagreement from becoming an argument
Many people engage in endless argument without arriving at a consensus or agreement. There are several steps to be followed in order for us to keep a disagreement from becoming an argument. Let’s follow them step by step as enumerated below;
¨ Welcome the disagreement.
¨ Distrust your first inbred impression.
¨ Control your anger.
¨ Listen first.
¨ Look for areas of agreement from his or her sentiments.
¨ Be straightforward, don’t beat about the bush.
¨ Promise to think over your opponent’s ideas and study them carefully before responding.
¨ Thank your opponent’s sincerely for their attention.
¨ Postpone action to give both sides time to think through the problem.
scheng1 wrote on December 12, 2014, 7:14 AM
Most people have motives for argument. When they think that others are trying to make trouble for them, they will argue very forcefully. They just want to prove that they are tough.
MamaOzzy3881 wrote on December 12, 2014, 11:10 PM
Cool post! I thought it was quite interesting
chavangigeoffrey wrote on December 13, 2014, 9:19 AM
Thanks my dear friend it is interesting surely. I think it is worthy emulation.
chavangigeoffrey wrote on December 13, 2014, 9:22 AM
That is very true scheng1 , it is very difficult to change some habits that men have adopted. One thing they don't know is that trying to prove their toughness is only but an act on primitive.....allow me to use this terminology.
scheng1 wrote on December 13, 2014, 9:27 AM
That's right. They forget that the softest is often the hardest, like water does not seem like a destructive power in a cup, but when it becomes a flood, it kills.
lookatdesktop wrote on December 13, 2014, 8:41 PM
You know this is true. Many times I have just disagreed with a friend and it turned into an argument because neither of us listened to the other or stopped to think before talking or rather arguing. Arguments are much harder to fix than a disagreement.
chavangigeoffrey wrote on December 14, 2014, 3:39 AM
Well said my good friend scheng1 , it is a lesson to learn and emulate
chavangigeoffrey wrote on December 14, 2014, 3:41 AM
lookatdesktop , this was the main reason for my sharing on this. Many people don't know how to avoid disagreements emanating from arguments.