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The Actual Situation Is Way Diffferent From Reading It

We read a lot of on how to manage or situations. Medical or personal situations. But it can also be and sometimes not as easy as it sounds.

For example we read a lot of messages that are supposed to hit our and emotions. How to care for our elderly parents and how to be understanding when they are forgetful, cranky and so on and so forth. I bet a lot of us has seen that video and read the articles posted on Facebook. Makes us teary eyed and we ourselves we won't do it.

But when the actual time comes, it is much harder to do. We are also human and we don't have the patience of a saint. No matter how hard we try, we get . It is easy to say we will care and we will understand. The problem who will be there to understand you? To help you?

We want to but it is hard to do it. We can only do so much and be as patient as we can.

Only God knows how hard we tried and how many of tears we shed, how many of patience we try to muster and how much love we have for our elderly parents.

People will you, they will expect you to do so much, much more than you can handle. Easy for them to say and , they are not the ones it.

In the end you are the one they blame. They will say you did not do your best. How can they know when they were not there? Do you think they would have done better?

Just my thoughts from someone living the actual situation.


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Comments

Ellis wrote on November 19, 2014, 8:04 PM

The only person who can know whether you did your best...is YOU...

midastouch wrote on November 19, 2014, 9:37 PM

Well, I can feel your anguish. If you are living the experience of caring for an elderly relative, I sure empathize with you. It is surely not easy. The old person is like a child again, you never can know how to truly please him or her and if they have any diseases, that makes it doubly harder. But in all, a little more patience, a little more affection, a little more understanding, knowing that we all would pass that route if we live long enough, would be a great source of inspiration to continue.

idyll wrote on November 19, 2014, 11:09 PM

It is so true so sometimes even we know that the things we are going to do is wrong, we can't stop it. The reality and literal thinking are hard to be on same page for all time.

Dawnwriter wrote on November 20, 2014, 3:30 AM

I don't want to write a lot of personal stuff here but I think we should do what is right and not what is revengeful or petty. For example, suppose your mom in law is horrid to you for 30 years of her life and now she is weak, old and miserable Should you enjoy her misery or be kind and compassionate? Should you poison your children's mind against her or make them respect her? For me there are no two choices here. I will always pray that God makes me kind and never have those qualities which i do not like in others. Do not do anything because you fear people's judgment but you must fear your own conscience.

Madcanman wrote on November 20, 2014, 5:43 AM

This is such a difficult area of life and, I think, one that more people go through than you'd know. Don't beat yourself up over this. I watched my mother go through such strife with both of my grandparents, and I fear it'll be one of the deciding factors when her time comes. I'm afraid I may also put my sweet wife through some misery (my word, not a sentiment she would ever use in the situation, I'm sure) when it's my time. Only 53 I've had memory issues for years, and I can be so absent-minded already. My mother, who is too far away for me to really do anything, has been showing signs of slow decline for some time now. It's a sad, sad reality of life. Best to you with all you have on your plate.