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Why I Prefer Animals to Most People

I'm not anti-social by nature, but I have grown more selective with my preferences as I've grown older. In social situations I gravitate to those people who are less dramatic, less arrogant, less closed-minded.

I talk with many people -- lots of them are strangers that I encounter going about daily life. Generally, these are not in-depth conversations, so they tend to be pleasant and brief. I try only to emit positive energy as most of us already have enough negativity in our lives.

With animals, there is no need for conversation, for pleasantries. Give an animal adequate food, water, shelter and positive attention and you've got an eager companion.

People are not so easily satisfied. I don't wish to be controlled, micro-managed, berated or used, not physically, not mentally and not emotionally.

When you're a nice person -- and everyone I can think of will agree I am nice -- there are those who seem drawn to you like a magnet is to steel. These are the people I call the energy-suckers. They talk and whine and complain, eagerly lapping up every miniscule iota of positive energy from a nice person.

Animals are quite content with what you give them -- okay, maybe not cats, but that's a whole other story. Animals give unconditional love and devotion -- people not so much.

This post is part of the A-W Category Challenge begun by Dawnwriter

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Ellis wrote on November 1, 2014, 6:18 PM

An animal will love you for who you are...warts and all..

maxeen wrote on November 1, 2014, 6:36 PM

Oh yes! That is so right !I am not often seen without at least two of my dogs with me.

chatombreux wrote on November 1, 2014, 7:13 PM

I agree with you that animals give unconditional love. But, animals do like conversation and pleasantries, if you offer them regularly. Maybe it isn't on the human scale of things, but they do respond in their own ways. My Chloe loves that someone talks to her. She answers eagerly and is happy someone is acknowledging her. Baby Cat will talk when she's happy to see us come home or looking forward to being petted. Little mews in response to being addressed. Tiki doesn't say much unless she thinks there's food involved and then she's loud and obnoxious! LOL But, they do love us and they do interact with us and are far more pleasant than many humans I have known. I know exactly what you mean by energy suckers - my best friend is one. I'm trying to temper that in him.

bestwriter wrote on November 1, 2014, 8:38 PM

Animals keep no grudge atleast not our Preiti - she is a bundle of everything that a human being is not emoticon :grin: I used to be a people's person organizing parties - the works. Not any more. I prefer my pets, my plants and all that is in nature that does not sap my positive energy; but adds.

paperdaisyflower7 wrote on November 1, 2014, 9:29 PM

yes animals esp dogs will give you unconditional love

BarbRad wrote on November 2, 2014, 1:01 AM

Funny you exempted cats! But I know what you mean. I get a kick out of Sarah, who can be so demanding at times, but also hangs around the house and follows me around the property -- even thought she's not my cat.

Ruby3881 wrote on November 2, 2014, 5:41 AM

That sort of thing can be very taxing, especially if you're an introvert. I don't much care for needy people, or people who seem to take up a lot of room....

Feisty56 wrote on November 2, 2014, 7:50 AM

Exactly...on good days and not so good days...no pretense.

Feisty56 wrote on November 2, 2014, 7:51 AM

Awww, I bet the dogs love accompanying you wherever you go.

Feisty56 wrote on November 2, 2014, 7:54 AM

I didn't mean that I don't talk to the animals, because I do, I just meant that animals are just as content when you're silent. Most people expect conversation and interaction -- and sometimes, I just don't have it to give.

I wish you the best of success in tempering the energy-sucking habits of your best friend. I know it can happen, just must patience is required.

Kasman wrote on November 2, 2014, 7:54 AM

It was Mark Twain who said: 'The more I know about people, the better I like my dogs.' I agree with his (and your) view of humanity. I also came across an unattributed quote somewhere on Pinterest which goes something like: 'I'm not shy, I'm just very good at working out who's worth speaking to. Most people aren't'. Your 'energy suckers' - I have heard them called 'psychic vampires' - are everywhere. Avoid at all costs and get yourself a dog!

Feisty56 wrote on November 2, 2014, 7:55 AM

I understand exactly what you're saying...I wonder if some of the need for less drama -- both positive and negative -- isn't something most of us naturally seek as we become older.

Feisty56 wrote on November 2, 2014, 7:57 AM

It's just so refreshing to be able to be free to be who you are, not concerned with people's agendas and expectations.

Feisty56 wrote on November 2, 2014, 7:59 AM

Cats, I think, are in their own special, glorious category. It's not that they aren't wonderful companions, too, but are more independent and finicky. Sarah seems to have adopted you.

Feisty56 wrote on November 2, 2014, 8:04 AM

I agree -- it goes back to how you get your energy. There are some people I love who are needy people emotionally. I don't turn my back on them -- they are family after all. I do limit my exposure to them to brief interactions. In that way I can be supportive of them without it "costing" me my own energy.

Feisty56 wrote on November 2, 2014, 8:07 AM

Great quotes -- I'm sure the one from Twain was in my subconscious somewhere. Psychic vampires is a cool term.

Coming here and interacting with a pretty awesome and eclectic group of people is something I enjoy doing. Most days I find energy here and come away from the site feeling more positive than when I arrived.

bestwriter wrote on November 2, 2014, 8:20 AM

I do not quite agree with you. You and I could be doing it but whatever I have seen around these oldies still want to make their presence felt wherever they go.

Donna_Thacker wrote on November 2, 2014, 12:08 PM

Yes an animal is always there for you, unlike many people. I would rather be at home with my dogs than anywhere else.

paigea wrote on November 3, 2014, 12:28 AM

But pets have accidents on the floor. lol I get what you mean. I enjoyed our pets when we had them and they left a big hole once they were gone.

LoudMan wrote on November 4, 2014, 7:50 AM

I see your point. But, I've also come to learn, those who "whine and complain," there's a reason. And, sometimes, they have something very important to say.

LoudMan wrote on November 4, 2014, 7:52 AM

chatombreux Why "temper" your friend's behavior?

LoudMan wrote on November 4, 2014, 7:53 AM

Kasman - psychic vampires - they are real. Not the same as those who complain a lot but - very real.

Feisty56 wrote on November 4, 2014, 7:55 AM

Yes, I am not anti-people, I am more pro-animals. : )

Feisty56 wrote on November 4, 2014, 7:56 AM

Animals give far more than they take.

Feisty56 wrote on November 4, 2014, 7:58 AM

Yes, not all is perfect with pets. : ) Still, there is more to like about them than not.

Feisty56 wrote on November 4, 2014, 8:03 AM

I have spent my life in service to others. I have good listening skills and became adept at developing relationships with folks that were shunned by many others. Certainly it is important to listen and have empathy -- and to help where one is able. For me personally, this comes at a cost to my emotional and mental energy.

Time spent without that energy drain is important. Animals help me in that sense.

chatombreux wrote on November 4, 2014, 8:05 PM

Because he's alienated many of his friends because of his "Eeyore"ness (woe is me, my life is terrible, nothing is fair, etc.) I've been trying to get him to see that people do care, but they grow tired of hearing nothing but negativity and some, like one friend he misses terribly, get tired of it and cut the umbilical cord. He's having some issues with things in his life and doesn't always see his own contributions to those problems.

chatombreux wrote on November 4, 2014, 8:08 PM

I agree, although I have one of my 'babies' right now sitting next to me on the floor mewrping at me to get me to respond to her. She's the one who loves being talked to. Some are more vocal than others. But, I don't have to have a huge social life to discuss with them or way interesting trips or purchases or loves to oooh and ahhh over. They just love being loved. And, I can appreciate that.

Feisty56 wrote on November 4, 2014, 9:44 PM

I can too...and you can talk to them about any old thing...they don't care as long as your voice isn't angry.

Rhymis wrote on November 9, 2014, 5:44 AM

Awww, yes, I'm with you on this. While I don't love every animal in the world, I do like spending time with them and even talking to them. Like, I walk on the streets and talk (whisper so that people won't think I'm as crazy as I think I am) to a random cat or dog that I see. I talk to them like I talk to a person, only I talk unabashedly to them. Animals don't judge. That's why they're awesome.

Dewines wrote on November 10, 2014, 2:52 PM

I'm a cat person more than a people person. I like to spend most of my life in silence and find it wearying how most people want to talk or have music or TV in the background. Cats vocalise at times, but mainly the seem to enjoy silence as much as I do.

Feisty56 wrote on November 10, 2014, 7:19 PM

You're absolutely right -- unlike some people, animals don't judge.

Feisty56 wrote on November 10, 2014, 7:22 PM

I think many of us came to an understanding recently that introversion is well-represented among us. You sound as if you find your energy internally, too.

VinceSummers wrote on December 23, 2014, 9:25 AM

I do believe nearly everyone prefers the company of a pet at least some of the day. I know I like a cat that snuggles up to you when you are watching TV or something. By the way (here is a human -- me -- speaking, you may want to stop reading and find a pet), I hate the expression "positive energy" and "positive thoughts" as well, as in, for example, I'm sending positive thoughts your way. Gibberish! There, now. be nice, Vince. GRIN

Feisty56 wrote on December 23, 2014, 11:51 AM

I will do my best not to send any gibberish your way. As a man of science, I can see why you are skeptical about "positive energy" and "positive thoughts." As a woman of emotion and intuition, I disagree, but I think we can agree it harms neither one of us to believe as we do. : )