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Empty Nest Syndrome

I know someday our children will leave us soon for a better life, to work or even get married, we did to0. When we were younger we were all excited to work abroad, to earn a living and to find . I remember my mom and aunt and cousins going with me to the when I was leaving to go to the US to work. I was the first in our family because I first, my older brother was taking up so he was still in his proper. I can remember smiling and laughing while leaving for the plane. The last I saw my mom was her trying to wipe her tears. She was still young maybe about my age now so she could travel back home to the alone. My 3 brothers was still with her. But once I got on the plane and sat down. hit me. As soon as the plane was taking off, the tears started to flow and just wouldn't stop. My just smiled at me and tried to comfort me. I lasted 5+ years without coming home.

Now another feeling will be happening soon. My only daughter and child will be leaving soon, I knew she will also be going abroad, It would be a waste of her if she does not go.

My brothers will be the one to her ticket. We expected this year but now they are telling me she will be leaving before !

Tears will start to flow again for me...having her by my side for 28 years is hard. At least my mom had my brothers. Me no one not even my mom because she can barely remember.

Oh well I will just have to be strong and spend more time . And pray.

These are our pictures need to take more before she goes.


Image Credit » picture is mine

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TheTalker wrote on October 19, 2014, 11:02 PM

I know how hard that can be for a parent, especially when the child moves far away. Hopefully, there will be good visits both back and forth for the two of you.

LoudMan wrote on October 19, 2014, 11:02 PM

Do take ore pictures. Your daughter is BEAUTIFUL and you should be so proud. I hope she takes school serious.

LoudMan wrote on October 19, 2014, 11:03 PM

t to say *more pictures* Oh gawd, the messages messed up by a typo...smh.

paperdaisyflower7 wrote on October 19, 2014, 11:07 PM

she will be going there to work she finished Bachelor of Music and caregiving course

paperdaisyflower7 wrote on October 19, 2014, 11:08 PM

that will be hard and expensive she will be going to the US to work and I will be left here in the Philippines

ashuli wrote on October 20, 2014, 1:23 AM

Yes I can truly feel and understand what you must be going through. Its a kind of life cycle which i don't think anyone can stop or should stop... don't worry she will visit after she settles down there comfortably or you may plan one

somedsatisfied wrote on October 20, 2014, 4:06 AM

It happens so quickly! I'll be coming up on this with my oldest in just a few short years and it doesn't even feel real.

paperdaisyflower7 wrote on October 20, 2014, 6:38 AM

It never does feel real but we just have to try to accept it emoticon :crying:

paperdaisyflower7 wrote on October 20, 2014, 8:22 AM

I am happy but sad i wouldn't be seeing her as often or every day like I used to

LeaPea2417 wrote on October 20, 2014, 1:33 PM

My husband and I are experiencing the empty nest syndrome right now and I have had sad feelings about it. It was like yesterday when my two boys were born. Time does go by fast!

paperdaisyflower7 wrote on October 20, 2014, 9:58 PM

you are lucky you have your husband but I am a single mom and it is much harder

paigea wrote on October 20, 2014, 11:05 PM

It is so hard to be far from family. My family is all in Canada, but Canada is a big place, we are very spread out.

idyll wrote on October 21, 2014, 5:49 AM

from a children's side, also feel empty net whenever we apart from our parents. I just had a hard conversation with my aunt who just allowed her son to study overseas. She misses him a lot so I told her that I can feel you. Then the way she replied is very lovely and can see motherhood vividly "No No, don't talk like that in future as you can share the pain of mother unless you are a mother" hehee yah. i'm not a mother yet however as a daughter, I can feel you.

paperdaisyflower7 wrote on October 22, 2014, 2:34 AM

yes I guess the child will also feel loneliness but they are young and can adjust quickly :) and your aunt is right you will really understand when you are a mother too. I experienced both already as a daughter when I first left now as a mother when my daughter leaves :)

AbbyBiha wrote on October 22, 2014, 3:22 AM

I know that feelings but I hope you will follow your daughter to wherever she is so that you won't be so lonely.

paperdaisyflower7 wrote on October 22, 2014, 6:51 PM

My mother is still with me even if she has Alzheimer so at least i will be kept busy and maybe someday i can go for a visit