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Spent Some Quality Time With My Brother's Family at Rehearsal Dinner

This has been a pretty laid back day. We bummed around the motel most of the morning. After breakfast downstairs in one of the meeting rooms, I spent some time in the business center looking at mail and printing directions to my brother's house. It's been two years since we've been there and we had forgotten the way from the motel. I used the motel computer for that. Then I plugged in my laptop to see what I've been missing on Persona Paper. After that I went back to our room to get ready for the rehearsal dinner.

We finally got to my brother's about 1:30, but hardly anyone was there yet. Finally my brother got home from work and my younger nephew, who will be the best man, was ready, and we got in the assigned cars to ride to the rehearsal dinner and the rehearsal itself. Since another wedding was taking place at the wedding venue during the time of the rehearsal, the rehearsal was held at the bride's family home.

As I watched the rehearsal, I couldn't help but compare it to the one we had had. Our wedding was in a church, the one I was raised in. It had an assigned wedding hostess who walked the wedding party through the rehearsal. They made us rehearse all the walking and moving into position, giving of rings, etc. Today two women showed up to direct the wedding party. The whole rehearsal was only about 15 minutes. They went through the most important stuff and that was it. Maybe it would have been longer if we'd been in the actual place where the wedding would take place.

The official photographer was there, and he took some family group photos. First they took a photo of everyone on the bride's side of the family. Then one with everyone who was involved as family or wedding party. Then they took a photo of the groom's side of the family, which was much smaller. Just my brother and sister-in-law, her sister, my nephews, and us. I was trying to brush away the tears to smile because all I could think about was how happy my parents would have been about this wedding and how sad they couldn't have lived long enough to see it.

After the rehearsal, we milled around while the bride's mother and aunts were laying out the buffet for the rehearsal dinner and then we all ate. Our side of the family all sat together with the groom, and the bride sat with her family. We were outside at beautifully decorated tables. By the time we were eating it was early evening and the tables were in the shade. It wasn't really cold, since we were on the coast in Newport Beach. After we finished eating, we sat and talked with the family around the table for some time.

By seven it was getting dark and it was time for us to leave with my brother. We were really glad he was driving, since we never would have made it there and back on our own. We couldn't even make the ten-minute drive back to the motel without getting lost once.

Tomorrow is the wedding, and we'll get home a bit later, since the wedding is at four and the reception isn't over until ten. I imagine we'll be back earlier though, since we will leave early with my brother. He gets up at 4:30 AM.

Unfortunately, I forgot to bring my card reader to upload my photos, so I'll have to wait until I get home to post them.

Note: I'm not sure why the spacing isn't right between paragraphs. I put the paragraph space in but it disappeared when published.

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JanetJenson wrote on October 18, 2014, 2:40 AM

Sounds like you had a good time. I have not been ambitious enough to learn the spacing bit on here yet, as nice as the feature is. Just too much too do.

bestwriter wrote on October 18, 2014, 4:10 AM

Rehearsal is something new to us here We have a ceremony individually on eve of the wedding day in their respective homes. It is quite traditional - applying coconut juice by all the near and dear ones and they are bathed later following by a sumptuous dinner.

Do get back and tell us about the wedding.

Scorpie wrote on October 18, 2014, 6:17 AM

I seem to attend more funerals than weddings these days, a disturbing trend.

LoudMan wrote on October 18, 2014, 6:46 AM

It's usually always good to check in with family, right? We tend to only get together for funerals.

angily wrote on October 18, 2014, 11:53 AM

it is good you had quality family time and family moments are scarce now and very precious indeed.

BarbRad wrote on October 18, 2014, 12:52 PM

Normally I just press enter to paragraph and everything come out right. This time it didn't.

BarbRad wrote on October 18, 2014, 12:54 PM

It'a interesting to learn about each other's customs. America has so many different ways of getting married it would take a book to describe even part of them. I'll write more on the wedding itself when I get home and can use my photos.

BarbRad wrote on October 18, 2014, 12:54 PM

I hear you. It's the same with us.

BarbRad wrote on October 18, 2014, 1:03 PM

We've had more funerals than weddings in the family during the past thirty years. The last wedding in the family was my brothers close to forty years ago. Since then it's been funerals one after the other - Cousin Edna, Dad,my father-in-law, my son Jason, mother-in-law, close friend Rich, Mom, and daughter Sarah. We try to get what's left of the family together for Thanksgiving and / or Christmas.

BarbRad wrote on October 18, 2014, 1:33 PM

Very true. It's so easy to forget how pleasant it is to just sit and talk with family members you rarely get to see in person.

MegL wrote on October 18, 2014, 2:11 PM

I hope the wedding goes really well and that everyone enjoys it. Look forward to seeing any photographs and descriptions of food!

Feisty56 wrote on October 18, 2014, 4:28 PM

I do hope the brief rehearsal will prove to be enough to allow everything to go smoothly for the wedding. I look forward to those photos and posts on the wedding and reception.

OldRoadsOnceTraveled wrote on October 19, 2014, 12:36 AM

I'm so glad you were able to make the trip and get together with your family.

AliCanary wrote on October 19, 2014, 6:06 AM

I'm glad you had a nice chance to hang out with the family, and I'm looking forward to seeing the pictures!

BarbRad wrote on October 19, 2014, 1:01 PM

The wedding went very well. I'd love to show videos of some dancing moments, but not sure how to approach the copyright issue on the music. I'm hoping a few stanzas I can't avoid getting in order to catch the dancers is fair use. Somehow I hate deleting the sound on a dance. I have photos of the food, the place settings, the venue, the whole works.

BarbRad wrote on October 19, 2014, 1:02 PM

The beautiful thing about this wedding was the naturalness of it. It was more about getting married than all kinds of protocol and getting every movement just right.

BarbRad wrote on October 19, 2014, 1:03 PM

Being here was getting good. Getting here was tough. It remains to be seen how getting home will be.

BarbRad wrote on October 19, 2014, 1:04 PM

I took lots of photos. I was into the second camera before the wedding was over.

OldRoadsOnceTraveled wrote on October 20, 2014, 1:45 AM

I hope it's easier than my last trip. It should have been a 4-hour drive home, but it took 4-hours just to go the first 60 miles. Drive safe.

Ruby3881 wrote on October 20, 2014, 1:44 PM

A loved one's absence is always most keenly felt on special occasions like a wedding. I'm sure your parents were there in spirit :)

TheTalker wrote on October 20, 2014, 11:32 PM

I'm sure it was nice for you to have the time with your brother even though you were there for the wedding.

BarbRad wrote on October 21, 2014, 12:37 AM

I hope they somehow got to see it. Or maybe it's not as important to them now as it would have been here.

BarbRad wrote on October 21, 2014, 12:39 AM

It would have been better if we could have talked more at the reception. We were sitting right next to each other and couldn't hear each other enough to converse.

idyll wrote on October 21, 2014, 12:57 AM

you are blessed to have a quality time with your relatives. having a big family is truly a blessing. for us, we don't have many relatives.