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A.D.H.D Is a big pain in the bum

My 14 year old was diagnosed with adhd( attention deficit hyperactive disorder) august last year and with medication she has got a little better but still, the things she does sometimes dont half push my patience, i find the things she does very hard to understand.

Like one day i picked her up from school to find her pen lid was stuck on her lip as she had been biting it and it slipped and wedged onto her lip, she walked around like that at school for half a hour because she wouldn't let anyone touch her lip

Like the time i asked her to go to the shop to get my money out of the bank and top up my electric key.

I was in the bath when she left but later found out that she had walked the ten minutes to the shop to get my money out the bank, then walked back home to get the electric key and then back to the shop again. Why not just do both things at the same time?

Its been a long process, i understand now that people with adhd have their brains programmed different, they dont process things the same way as a non adhd person does and therefore they think that their way is the best way possible.

I have learnt to be a lot calmer and understanding but still sometimes i just want to cry.

Today my girl came home from school with writing in pen on one hand and her friends name in tippex( a solvent to correct pen mistakes on paper), on the other hand.

The worst bit was that she had tippex all up both sleeves of her brand new £40 blazer, she said she reached out and spilled it, she was chatting and not paying attention.

Then she tells me that she has bad news, that for her exam option of photography that she needed to have a £500 camera before Monday.

For the last 3 hours i have been stressing almost to the point of tears thinking about how im gonna be able to afford this camera when she pipes up with oh i can use any camera but i need the other camera before next year,

i asked her why she told me she needed it before Monday and she replied cus i need it for next year anyway.

Sigh, roll on bedtime lol.


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Comments

MegL wrote on September 3, 2014, 5:14 PM

I have recently been finding out about SCD Specific Carbohydrate Diet because my husband has Ulcerative Colitis and this is supposed to help it. It most certainly did but it is ALSO supposed to be helpful for people with ADHD. Why not see if a change of diet might help? SCD can be a hard diet to stay on but apparently the results can be amazing.

astraldreamer wrote on September 3, 2014, 5:22 PM

thanks megl no i havent heard of that, but when im following my low carb high fat diet she responds well to that, its just having the cash to stock up on all the right things.

BarbRad wrote on September 4, 2014, 1:10 PM

It's not easy to be a parent under any circumstances, but it sounds like it's even more challenging for you. I wish you both well as you learn to adjust to her brain processing style.

astraldreamer wrote on September 4, 2014, 2:16 PM

yes always learning something daily with both of my children.